12 Things Your Guests DGAFF About

I feel like when people have a massive wedding that costs a lot of money. The huge majority of reasoning behind it is just to stroke their own vanity

Just gotta chime in. I was married waaaay back in the early ‘90’s. I do think a guest book is necessary for thank you notes. Some people come for the ceremony and or the reception. It is nice to thank them that they came along with a thank you for the gift.
I do agree about the favors. I was not planning on having them, but MIL insisted. She bought a bunch of little Italian nugaut candies in 1×1” Boxes. She wrapped them and handed them out. We did not have any left over, but I have known brides that are stuck with plants , stickers or whatever. If you must do the favor do practical or edible: candy, match books? Finally, anything the bride and groom are not into can be eliminated. We did not do a dance. Our venue was only available for 3 hours on a Friday evening in Summer. We didn’t care so much about the dancing, but wanted music we liked; we made 6 CDs of big band music and other stuff that played though out the evening. Today, make your playlist. It was a short and sweet wedding and I still have people tell me it was one of the best weddings they have been to.

Just went to my cousin's wedding, they gave out little bags with a can of coke, a small bag of chips and 2 pills for headaches. 10/10! They were placed right by the door, so no one needed to hand them out or anything, there was just a big sign that said "FOR YOUR HANGOVER".

My theory about favors is the same as my theory about stuff in life, if I can't use it daily or use it up it's not worth my money or time. I love the idea of chocolates or candies – and love seeing them at a reception table, tbh – but I plan on plain fans for my ceremony since it's gonna be a small outdoor ceremony (20-30 ppl), my dad literally uses a fan weekly, and I know people who live where I do may also keep and use them, because no a/c, and no writing, because I literally don't care if anyone else remembers the day and I feel like people are less likely to use things personalized to other people's dates. I know I am. lol. Like, why would I display someone else's wedding date on my wine-stopped when I could just use a cute lil fishy??

Wedding cake – yummo! Grand exit ❤. The rest – meh.

My one daughter just got married 5/11/24. She had a guest book and "Everyone" signed it and even wrote a nice note for the bride and groom and this is why. She had the guest book placed on a high boy cocktail table with a polaroid camera next to it with a basket of film for scrape books. The guests loved the idea of taking a selfie, peeling off the back of the photo and sticking it in the guest book next to their message. I saw people coming and going from the table throughout the reception, It was a big hit! We will be doing the same for our other daughter's wedding in 2026. Note: You will need a small sign stating to please only take one photo so there is enough film for everyone and they nicely did as the sign said.

Well in Brazil if you don't give any favors people will grab anything they find that can be taken

your sorry!! hahaha you are great! I always text your videos to my brides. TYTY u rock.

the favor thing, i say most of the time people forget it because they have nowhere to put it. last wedding i went too i had no purse or bag and they had homemade honey as the favors. i also didnt want to hold onto it the whole night. they just sent them via mail with the thank you cards. loved it.

I love fondant!! It’s made of marshmallows. It’s my favorite part of the cake!!

I love love love wedding cake

Open seating gives both the wedding planner and guests social anxiety 😬

My best friend did open seating and it was HORRIBLE! Her friends from home were really rude and refused to sit with us when there were only a handful of friends and the rest of the wedding was family. Felt so exclusive and we had 5 empty seats leftover. Couldn't agree more on cake – definitely don't want one!!

This video is a great reminder for me because I sometimes forget that not everyone thinks like me. I have every wedding invitation and little trinquete from weddings I’ve attended. The same way I have a key chain collection, a bow I had when I was 6 and a bunch of other random things in a box. I always think since things are important to me it will be to everyone. lt’s nice having a professional say hey you don’t need this. 😂

I have to disagree with the cake one. I am obsessed with cake. I was for my own wedding and everyone else's it is one of the first things I look for when I get to a wedding. I love seeing what they designed and I also love eating it. I have a unique cake story since I am a US bride who got married in my husband's small city in India. My father-in-law thought the guests would not care about or like my style of cake. I had a vanilla sponge cake with delicious vanilla buttercream (no fondant). We had the big pretty cake used for display until the end along with sliced up sheet cakes of the same flavor we had over 300 guests. At Indian weddings guests eat in shifts in a floating dining room so serving is different than the US but luckily no need for seating charts haha. Guests come on stage take a picture with you, congratulate you, give you a gift or money envelope then take their guest favor then go eat so we needed boxed cake for the guests that ate first since we wanted the big cake to remain on display until the end of the reception. Also, at my wedding everyone took their favors since it is handed to them as they leave the stage lol. And in India our favors were coconuts and they all like eating them so they wanted to take them home. So, I guess if you give them something useful to them they will make sure to take it haha. But anyways the cake was such a hit people ate every bit of the cake and took extra. We had 315 sliced up and boxed pieces of sheet cake and a big cake that could easily serve around 100 guests and we ran out. My husband's cousin told us people were cramming extra boxes in their bags which is what caused the shortage haha. Relatives showed up at our house asking for the left over cake from the big cake and so we sliced up our big cake and boxed it and gave it out to relatives. So, I'd say if you have good cake people will love it people still talk about my cake and this is a culture that typically does not do much cake at weddings and typically does not even eat buttercream frosting. But I wanted to show one food item more from my culture and it was a hit my father-in-law said I proved him wrong haha. Also, I was the only bride in my husband's town to serve cake to all the guests if a couple does have cake that is typically reserved just for the end for the bride and grooms closest family and friends but I gave the cake to everyone. It was easier for me since we had way less people than most couples since most of my side of the family watched virtually from the US only my parents, aunt, and two friends could make the 30 hour trip. Many weddings here have 800-1000 guests. But I felt like over 300 was a ton being from the US. And for the 5 guests that travelled super far we got them some very beautiful and meaningful souvenirs from my husband's hometown that they really cherished. So, I think favors are especially good and will be cherished when guests travel a long way for a wedding especially to another country and they are very meaningful to the place. Like we got hand carved dancing dolls unique to a place near my husband's hometown and framed handmade carving of the landmark that represents my husband's hometown with our names and wedding date customized onto it. So, I think sometimes favors can be really meaningful but yeah we had to spend like 50 USD per guest to do that type of favor and we only did it because they spent literally thousands to come to our wedding and there was only 5 of them but 4 gift since my mom and dad are a couple. But I agree the small little favors may or may not be noticed so good to think about that and not waste money.

My wedding favor is wine stoppers. At our place we can take over the left over wine. Im sure it will be great use lol.