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I paid for everything at my son's wedding 2 years of planning I told his father he had to pay for the DJ and I told him the DJ makes or brakes a wedding that one he hired was bad everyone left.
If someone invited a stand-up comedian I would definitely leave immediately LOL
…and a bad DJ will run it for everybody. Too many bad DJs at the different weddings I was invited to. I'll do it myself.
Jamie – I have seriously considered a magician or a comedian for my wedding. XD We're doing a mostly dry wedding and I just think a comedian would go a long way!
Personal experience : I went to an outdoor wedding and I absolutely didn't enjoy it. It was so cold at night and Nothing was done about it. During the day, it was very hot, but that was fine because they had enough water and ice for everyone plus alcohol, but at night it was a disaster. She's right when she says that the tempeture of the room is so important. You wanna have an outdoor wedding? Sure, but have AC and a heater. I still prefer the indoor setting because temperature is way more stable and controled. 😊
45 minutes of toasts is definitely a lot. But also, if you arent someone close enough to me to be somewhat entertained or invested by a few toasts, you arent at my wedding. That being said, my wedding will be very small for this reason.
Food trucks sound fun, but take forever. At my office, we've had a few food truck events. They are painfully slow. I don't understand why the trucks prepare 1 thing at a time when there is a limited menu and they could cook up a heap of meat at a time to quickly make tacos or whatever is being served. I'd be very weary of having a large group's exclusive access to food or drinks being 1 food truck.
If you really want a food truck, ask how many people they can comfortably serve in an hour. Also, if you can visit them at a location like a farmer's market or wherever they do their normal business, time how quickly people are getting their orders.
I want an outside wedding. But an inside reception, that way once the wedding is done they can find their seats, get music started, and get the alcohol. That’s how the last wedding I’ve been to went down and it was awesome!
I left a wedding early because dinner was a chili cook off. Everyone was so uncomfortably gassy afterwards, no one was dancing! Multiple people said " i need to go home, lay down, and fart!" Lol
Can you do a video discussing a reception style where instead of a sit down dinner, you just extend cocktails with heavy hors d'oeuvre for the whole night? I can't find much content on this l, but I've been to work socials that do cocktails and "heavy apps." I find them to be way more social/fun and also fill me up.
Is it true that when you send invites and request an rsvp that typically 80% will show up? Also if you are doing an open house party how many seats should you have set up? Thanks!
Blah blah blah 3 minutes to get through hot or cold… another they hate .. long bridesmaid speeches 🙄
Lets not kid ourselves, they are not toasts, they are full blown speeches. Long long boring boring speeches. The worst part of any wedding IMO! I recommend all bride and grooms to tell whoever will be giving a speech to limit it to just 5 minutes or less. No matter how much a guest smiles, they are thinking "are they ever going to shut up, I am not interested in your life story from 1st grade to now that you had with the bride or groom". Seriously, nobody cares so make it short and sweet and get the party rolling.
What makes or breaks a wedding IMO is the food and the music. If you hit it out of the park with both the wedding will be 98% successful (the other two percent you just can't please no matter what). Food should taste good and not be served cold. Music should be good for all age groups or only the very young will be dancing while the other age groups usually are bored and leave early. Went to a wedding and the only music played was rap and jump around music. Not one young person was actually dancing but rather just jumping up and down all night long. They had a great time, but everyone else which were approx 50% of the guests were bored out of their minds.
One time my fiance and I left because of how cold and WINDY it was. Their venue, bless them, didn't have complete walls. Like rather it had pillars so it allowed wind in and aside from it messing up all of our hair and blowing dresses up, it was blowing food plates around. It was stressful and as much as we understand, we knew when we get married we NEED a good shelter away from those kind of weather elements.
Our wedding is happening in May and we are having a religious ceremony celebration and we opted for a violinist which will still be playing beautiful music and serenading the tables with our guest and we will have a cartoonist that would be drawing couples some entertainment for our guest as there won’t be any alcohol or dancing involved. But ultimately it will be beautiful.
I am getting married in September and we are not the richest of people so we are doing a Bluetooth jukebox wedding music , I witch is pretty cool 😊
Ok so this is a wedding thing. People.. listen to this? 180k people have.. watched this? 😬 huh?
Despite all of these, it’s YOUR WEDDING, YOUR DAY. Do whatever tf you want!! Guests don’t wanna be there? They can leave. This isn’t about them, it’s about you. If they’re unsatisfied, who cares? Again, this is about YOU. Not them.
The earrings you are wearing are so right for you.
Watching this after my wedding, and can 100% attest to the DJ one. I tried my best to find someone good, but this guy was terrible. No idea about what was going on on the dance floor, didn't care that no one was dancing. Would cut off songs that people liked right in the middle. He didn't know how to announce people and bothered me at my reception to get clarification (Even though we had a call before). As a result, I was annoyed most of the wedding, and we didn't have many good dancing photos.
currently trying to fill a 3 hour gap we have in our wedding, while planning. and its a destination wedding so theyre gonna be there the whole time eeep
Oh yes. I thought about that comedy show idea as well. Perfect entertainment.
My bf wants a stand up comedy show for his bachelor party. Lol
Things I hate as a wedding guest:
1. Not enough food.
I once went to a relative’s wedding in which there was not enough food for guests. It was just fish tacos and half of the guests didn’t get any! And I didn’t get any chocolates.
2. Bad food.
Fish tacos were tasteless.
3. No dancing.
Went to a wedding that was fun except for one thing: there’s was no dancing! I want to dance; not sit around at the table and sting forever! There was the take photos of yourself with trinkets but that wasn’t good enough because it was one of those things that renter trained you for five seconds. I want to dance!
4. Too hot/too cold.
This wouldn’t be a problem if someone had air conditioner or tell me to bring a jacket.
5. No receding line.
Instead of having the Bride and groom going from table to table saying awkward hellos to guests. Why couldn’t they do what my sister and brother-in-law did which was the receding line? Please have the bride and groom stand at the front door of the reception and greet every guest. It will save the couple from doing awkward hellos in a crowded room and every guest would get a chance to actually meet the bride and groom. I remember at a wedding, the groom and bride didn’t have a receding line nor did they bother saying hello to anyone except for family. I was so embarrassed when I said hello to the bride and groom, the bride accused me for being a secret lover and demanded the groom “who is she?” Have she done the receding line, she would have known who I was!
Worst wedding I ever went to was in mid-summer and the bride, who was always cold, decided on an outdoor, non-tented wedding because she didn't want to be in air conditioning. All the guests were melting before the ceremony was over, and she had a 2-hour gap between the ceremony and the reception and didn't allow for snacks OR BEVERAGES in between time. 80% of the guests left before the actual reception started, and the bride was shocked when she arrived to see it.
I would say the flow of the wedding, which includes all of the above, is a part of what an experienced wedding planner should be proactive about. Dynamic timeline, speed of service, guests' comfort should all be part of the details that a wedding planner looks at.
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i think it’s funny that friends and family will get so butthurt about not being invited to a wedding but then they’ll leave or complain the second something goes wrong or the second they’re bored
Went to a wedding last Saturday. Inside reception area had the ac set to what felt like 60°. Outside was in the 90°s with NO OUTSIDE SHADE. I was MISERABLE!!
In my area we do self serve buffet. I fed my guests while I did pictures. We came in right as the last guest was getting their plate. We got our food then joined the party.
There was a freak ice storm in the southern beach town I got married in. So my guests were cold! I mean so was I. Keep in mind you'll have a lot of pics with people in coats if it's too cold!
Too funny, ty!☺️
I don’t mind speeches at weddings but I HATE when the couple allows literally ANYONE to get up and make a speech/toast. My stepbrother did this at his wedding and it turned into like an hour of half drunk people trying to form a coherent speech on the fly.
This is why you should just elope…..
I went to a wedding last summer and it was plagued with almost every issue that Jamie has mentioned in this video! The bride refused to call off an outdoor wedding and all the guests were poured on until the call was made to move it indoors (roughly 30 minutes in the rain). Everyone was upset and had muddy shoes. Buffet dinner took too long to get to and guests needed to answer trivia in order to get food (it was the entertainment they had planned) but everyone was just hangry. The food was undercooked and not appetizing. The DJ was good until the dance floor opened; played music that nobody wanted to dance to. The real kicker was it was a completely unplugged event. Nobody had cell service and the only option was to drive 15 minutes from the venue to get access, or pay ridiculous amount of $$ to get a 15 minute wifi pass. It is truly so important for the bride/groom/planners to put themselves in the guests' shoes to make sure everyone is comfortable and happy because a build-up of negative events will lead to an overall negative memory of the wedding from the guests.
A friend's wedding did not have alcohol or dancing due to religious purposes. Only harp music was played. Everyone was bored and the wedding felt like you were forced to be there. My BFF and I decided to try and sneak out, we told the bride and groom that we were going to leave and the bride basically screamed at us. We were guilt-tripped into staying to the very end. She wanted a huge crowd to wave and cheer as they got into the car, with the flower petal shower as they drove off kinda movie scene. Then we were told by her mother that we had to help clean up, even though they had paid caterers and wait staff for that exact purpose. The bride and I were not even that close. I don't talk to them anymore, for different reasons than the wedding.
My brother and sister in law had an hour of toasts. They passed the microphone around to anyone who wanted to make a toast. It was soooooo boring. They then got mad after that my parent’s and myself didn’t make a speech. The hour of compliments was not enough for them.
Listening to all this gives a good case for simple court wedding or eloping. Me and my husband got married at court with his parents present and my parents present and we went out for very nice dinner and had cake and coffee at our appt after. It was very simple and straight forward and all hade fun
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My fiancee and I are getting married in a couple months! Definitely on a budget, and doing some DYI! I've loved watching your videos! We have a close friend who is ordained AND is a fantastic and fabulous local musician in our area, she's handling the ceremony and live music for the reception! But must admit, the thought of live comedy is awesome!!!