Heidi Dulebohn
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Colors to Avoid Wearing as a Wedding Guest
It’s good to be mindful about what colors to wear to a wedding? In this video, Heidi reminds us of traditional guest colors, some modern thoughts, and the one important rule you’ll need to remember when planning your outfit for the big wedding.
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Getting ready for my brother in laws wedding. It's a western theme so I am wearing a muted dark green prairie dress and cognac cowgirl boots with a coordinating cognac belt and gold braided earrings. I'm considering wearing a dusty rose bow in my hair, I think it looks really western, and there are some of those tones in my cowgirl boots as well. Let me know what you think
Can I wear a transparent pair of shoes with crystal accessory on it to a wedding? They are pumps and I have a green dress to match. Don’t wanna accidentally upstage the bride 😅. Thanks
mostly here in the philippines the entourage & the guest follow the color palette chosen by the bride as theme of the wedding,the colors are indicated on the invitations.definitely no white,its exclusive for the bride,and no black since it signifies sadness or grief as in a wake.
If you're not sure ask the bride directly. Each bride has her own idea of what is or isn't ok.
Do you think a knee length straight waist black background with many different colors embroidery flowers is appropriate to dress for a considered formal wedding?
Love your wine red dress! So beautiful!
I thought red was a no no
Is that blue and white not too much white?
I bought a gold dress but decided to return it, due to it being an older bride and just a reception. I have no idea what she'll wear and many older brides opt out of pure white/ivory
Great tips!!! It is sometime s difficult to know what to choose for a wedding…
Bro I wore a red mini dress with safety shorts even in wedding guest but trust me no one was looking told old me anything to take off or anything they were just enjoying the wedding dont listen to this woman!. She want yall to look like trash bag
2 rules
1) no white
2)don't make it outshine the bride like a massive puffy bright dress
I'd still be sure its ok with the bride and groom about the black. Some people still aren't ok with it.
Black and white? Unless requested by the bride, I would still say no.
What should I wear to my granddaughter's Boho themed Autumnal afternoon wedding? She's open to anything, but I don't want to over or under dress for it. Your help would be invaluable. I'm a nurse and don't often dress up.
I am an Episcopal priest and was the officiant at the last wedding I attended. I wore a cassock, surplice and a special white lace stole for the ceremony. But I wore a pink dress over my clergy shirt and collar for the reception!
Her wine dress would look nice, if it didn't have that black mess all over the bottom, and her big black earrings are ugly. A simpler dress and earrings would be more elegant.
That black spider web all over the bottom of her red dress does not look good.
Our son got married on a llama farm in the smoky mountains. It was a wedding venue so we weren’t tromping around in the dirt. We were all asked to wear black. Men in tuxedo. It was quite unique. The bride won a beautiful sparkling black wedding gown. I wore a black lace dress.
Question. Is it ok to wear formal pants or suits in a wedding?
Well, whatever, but I still wouldn't wear black to a wedding.
Unless I am part of the wedding party or family, I avoid wearing the wedding colors as well.
I attended the wedding of a friend’s son and his bride had all the bridal attendants and mother’s of bride and groom and grandmothers wear white.
Wear anything but white
My brother and sister-in-law had their bridal party wear black when they got married.
Most of my guests wore black. It was kind of funny because my wedding was very colorful. One guest also wore white, but it was a simple pants outfit, and I really didn't care.
I still like traditional❤
Just don’t wear a white satin dress that looks like a wedding dress.
It’s ridiculous to tell people they can’t wear a color.
I will wear whatever i want! Who Cares!!!“ Who says” these “ rules”!
Hats and fascinations are appropriate to wear
Shoulders should be covered
Black is considered bad luck to wear at a wedding
I thought it would be near impossible to upstage a bride. All eyes are always on the bride, just wear what you want.
Yea I had someone wear a white (off white) dress at my wedding. It did feel a bit weird but it was very obviously not a wedding dress in its shape/design, and also I was too happy to be bothered. But yeah I guess its not knowledge to all 🫣🙈 I would NEVER do that myself! Going to a wedding this summer and not really sure about the dress code. It didnt say in the invite, but it all starts in the evening (7 pm). The bride is Syrian, and they are kind of known to be over the top glamourusly dressed, so I’m a bit nervous 😬 I have found a deess I like, its long (floor lenght) but not like a ball gown. Colorfull patterns in pinks, turquoise and some golden flecks. A little Maroccan inspired. Good or bad idea??? Its really pretty but I’m not sure if I should be wearing knee lenghth cocktail dress instead? Or ball gown? Is it too much or not enough??? I’m connected to the groom (he’s my cousins son) and I really don’t know the bride at all. Help??
Don’t wear white, black ( not a funeral) nor red.
I didn’t think you were supposed to wear red either, because the color red really stands out; it’s a statement color. You can’t miss it.
Gosh, those dresses shown are quite… Uh… Ugly.
Once I wore black but with yellow accessories, shoes, handbag, earrings and necklace
I was always told never wear white or black to a wedding and until my late 40s I would have considered it inappropriate to ever wear pants to a wedding , or funeral. (That being said, I would never wear anything bright or floral to a funeral either.) I was raised with a lot of old, southern, manners. I must say, though, that I think brides these days are getting totally carried away with dictating what guests are expected to wear at their weddings. Specifying that a wedding is casual, formal, black tie, garden, etc. is fine, even asking guests to NOT wear a specific color is acceptable, having a theme is acceptable, BUT, it must be understood that not everyone will be able to adhere to your request. Deal with it! It doesn’t ruin your day if someone is dressed inappropriately. It is only ruined if you bring it to everyone’s attention or you cause a scene. Every wedding or funeral I’ve ever been to, there is someone who just doesn’t get it. There is always someone way over dressed or way underdressed. ALWAYS. The first time I went to a funeral for my husband’s side of the family there was a family that showed up looking like they maybe just paused doing yard work or something to run down to the funeral, and an elderly woman who, apparently, thought she was a bridesmaid at an 80s wedding. I later came to realize they came to every family event dressed the same way. On my side, I have a niece who always shows up in the height of fashion to show off that she has more money than the rest of us and a cousin, who can be described as a Bountiful Beauty, that shows up showing more skin than you would see at a beach. She is actually getting married soon and I am kind of excited to see what kind of wedding dress she comes up with, lol. What I am trying to say here is just let it go. In the grand scheme of things, it really doesn’t matter.
I personally wouldn't wear black to a wedding and have yet to see anyone in black at a wedding
You look lovely. Loved this video.
Yes. Tell it to Princess Kate Middleton wearing white dress at the wedding of Meghan 😂😂😂
As far as I know there is absolutely NOTHING that can possibly upstage a bride. If people wear inappropriate clothing they will be either sneered at or laughed at behind hands. There are only two "prohibited" colours for weddings, black and, of course, white. You are wrong Heidi, it is never okay to wear black no matter how much etiquette has evolved.
The weddings I go to in the UK are all 'Morning Suits' (that is what men wear in the Royal Enclosure at Ascot – a tail suit and top hat. It is appropriate for women to wear Day clothes – not evening dress if the men are in tail suits. Smart Day clothes will cover most of your skin – so no decoletage , bare shoulders, or high splits in the skirt.
Oh and also a hat.
I personally don’t like to see black at a wedding. Unless it’s goth, or a vey formal event. Navy blue is a great alternative to black. Unless formal I love to see upbeat, happy if you will, colors. Even patterns unless it looks like a moo-moo. Weddings are a celebration 🍾
I will be wearing a dress with fancy cowgirl boots to a Texas wedding coming up soon. I’ve never done that before. But the bride and groom requested. I’m excited to see the wedding!
Not white, black, grey, red or pink.
Edit: If in church, as a guest, cover your shoulders. That dress you have on is ok, but where are the sleeves and/or jacket? A short sleeve is ok.
You don’t wear black to weddings around here. Black tie means cocktails. Short dress, not evening gown. White tie is long dress.
Victoria wore an English cottage lace gown, which happens to be white. Lace was the equivalent of diamonds then. She was an empress. Context.
A friend of mine rolled her eyes when I mentioned her white outfit was inappropriate. She said, “well I won’t wear it to yours.”🤷🏻♀️
Wear a modest cocktail dress….no one is looking at you anyway. Bring a little over jacket if sleeveless.