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Setting Boundaries with In-laws
In-law relationships can be some of the most complicated to navigate. In this short video, Jimmy Evans shares how to set boundaries within the home and enjoy healthy relationships with extended family.
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move 6 hrs away. close enough to visit a couple times a year, far enough for them to stay tf out of your business
is it nice yr wife's sister comes every time to yr house
A guy who will stand up for me against an asshole – even if that's my dad? is a total WINNER in my book! ๐โฅ๏ธ๐๐ป It takes bravery and skill to do that and maintain respect!!
This content is strikingly powerful. A similar book I perused sparked an incredible journey of self-discovery. "The Art of Saying No: Mastering Boundaries for a Fulfilling Life" by Samuel Dawn
The insights here are profound. A book I read with similar material prompted a major shift in my thinking. "The Art of Saying No: Mastering Boundaries for a Fulfilling Life" by Samuel Dawn
This is compelling information. I read a book with like content that sparked a transformation in me. "The Art of Saying No: Mastering Boundaries for a Fulfilling Life" by Samuel Dawn
If my brother-in-law who invites himself over, makes one more snide remark about our housekeeping I think I might be tempted to say something rude to him like "Don't let the door hit you on the way out." I am disabled and not capable of being as neat and tidy as his wife. I'm really sick of it.
Thanks so much. Please I have a question.
My husband stopped calling my parents because he felt they speak to me too often. My dad hardly calls me and I speak to my sister every morning. My mum sends prayer messages on WhatsApp like 3 times a week and sometimes I call her myself.I am the last born of the family, I live in Europe and my parents live in Nigeria. My mum tries to check on all her kids everyday.
My conversation with my sister, has nothing to do with my marriage. We are best friends. I asked my husband why he stopped calling my parents and he said because he feels they call me too much. That they have given me to him and are not letting go totally. I feel sad because my mum always fights for him when we have issues unknown to him. I am a Christian what should I do?
Mine has been the other way round. My husband will get angry for Days, no eating, no romance, no talking randomly, and other personality. My MIL visited and was so uptight didn't want to even use my soap that she didn't want problems. He displayed his mood swing episode while she was their i told her to please talk with her son she and her husband believe that they are third parties and will not get involved they calm to be christians i felt so crazy my parents are opposite.
That visit was the worst for me.
Praying for Gods wisdom because 5 years married now and the same habit is just building and that is not the way i grew up i dont even know how to adjust and di not admire such habit.he is paranoid about going to a counselor and twist every single discussion we have the way he want not the way i say it. Now he recirds conversation and still do not own up to when he falsely accuses me.
Today is the 19th September 2023 and i have finally made the decision cut my in-laws out for good this morning . Chop chop chop they are gone .
Iโm not being rude here at all and I donโt want anyone to think Iโm mocking peopleโs culture or religion but I find it so sexist the way the woman is expected to live with her in laws. My friend got married in 2019 in Glasgow however she had to basically give up her life and career to move up north for him and live with his family for three years and she has had a baby too along with some health issues but she is away from her parents. I think thatโs shocking and isnโt right in this day in age especially as she has been left alone a lot of the time as her husband is an off shore worker. She makes out everything is great but I think itโs a show personally as she was a very ambitious person before marriage. She has a social media presence and if Iโm honest I think thatโs why she got married. The husband should man up and stop relying on mummy. There needs to be more equality sorry.
I strongly believe in boundaries being set by both marriage partners because you are one flesh and each other' s priority. When a couple is supportive of each other and not allow in- laws to habitually line step, then the marriage is successful. Avoid profound situations such as placing your relatives as first priority over your spouse. Then, friction will rear its ugly head.
Thank you
What if they're living with YOU?
My wifeโs sister wanted to live in my home because she wanted to have an abortion and didnโt want her boyfriend to find out. I told her to f off.
I donโt meet the standards of what a man is to my inlaws. No amount of success can change their minds I donโt qualify so now our daughters suffer they donโt like my kids
I was thinking of moving to a different town might that help?
In-law boundaries are such an important topic.
Yup, the youngest sister in law I have needs to know and keep inside her own psychological boundaries about some other people.
My mother in law lives in my house and mooches off of us so bad. I used to be generous until I felt taken advantage of.
yes thats i feel
God bless you sir, I literally pondered on how to deal with my inlaw before I saw this and everything you said I already came to a conclusion to action them so stumbling on this message is pure confirmation. This is so spot on. Some of inlaws are super bored at their age and they want to relive their life through their inlaw. It is so draining and they don't realise this grave error. I will respect them but I will also set boundaries.
Interesting that all comments are from the children in laws and not from the parent in laws. Isnโt it possible that there is two sides to every story.
Potential Inlaws killed my relationship and itโs freaken heart breaking. Thanks for the advice Sir, I was way tooo kind towards them and in the end I got destroyed. One advice I can suggest to any girls out there, do not let your parents make decisions over your relationship.
My MIL found out her son and I see a business in our future. 3 weeks later my in laws are starting a concrete business only their kids are allowed to be in it. No wives or husbands. Now my husband dropped all our dreams that we worked for in over 3-5 years, to do business with his parents and siblings. Iโm heartbroken and feel betrayed. Husbands family already donโt like me at all. ๐ฅบ๐ฅบ๐ฅบ Iโm miserable mentally and emotionally
My husband never defended me a day in life.
It doesn't matter if you move out and get your own place if your spouse lets them walk right in and do whatever they want anyways then turn around and be a devil to you because you won't let his family reign over your home. Some people just don't know how to honor their relationships sadly.
Stay away from toxic ones
I thought we filipinos only experiencing this kind of issues. Iโm also experiencing things as if I can only get half of my husbandโs time with our kids and half to my in laws. Their closeness with each other is too much. No set of bounderies at all. ๐๐๐
I just wish in-laws donโt exist.
can any one tell me what is it mean saving? he says my mom and dad… they were not saved and he said that a few times… pls tell me save from what? thx
The problem is the word honor and respect and even though they're christian ( I guess) that in there culture means something entirely diff.