Jamie Wolfer
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How To DEAL with UNINVITED GUESTS at Your Wedding?! 🤬
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It honestly doesn’t matter what you do. I put a card saying no kids & only those listed on your RSVP guest list. I listed them & they still tried to add people. People are rude
How do you deal with people who rsvp but don’t come? Several of my family members will rsvp and then just not show up. And I’m not talking about a couple family members where things come up and they can’t come. I’m talking about 10+ family members (close cousins). Honestly makes me want to just not invite them. It’s annoying and financially frustrating. Please help!
I was going to invite all my cousins and talked about them coming with them, but my fiancé and I realized we don’t have the funds for everyone months later, and our wedding is in 2025. We are just going to have super close family and aunts/uncles. Anyone have any advice on breaking the news to them? I have tons and tons of cousins so I’m lost. And again, we don’t have the funds so we are having a small wedding.
All I’ve done on social media is post me trying on wedding dresses and my childhood neighbors invited themselves to my wedding 😅 thankfully don’t have any details hashed out so I didn’t have those to post as well. I would’ve known to be careful when posting specifics but now I’m trying not to post anything wedding related cause I don’t want to deal with any more of that
Congratulations on Baby #4 ✨🤍 wishing you and your family all the best
SO needed this video. My mother and sister are unfortunately very problematic and wont be invited to my wedding. I'm praying that they wont show up… luckily my fiancé is a police officer and we can get free security just in case. I have no doubt they would show up drunk and cause a scene
We will be having family in the front checking everyone in. If they are not on the list then they will be told to leave, if they make a scene the cops will be called.
We did a destination wedding then a reception in my city several months later over Labor Day weekend. We assumed we wouldn’t have a big turn out but apparently more people were free since they were off on Monday and we actually had around 10 people show up who weren’t invited. We had to move reserved tables and there was not an empty seat in the venue.
One in particular cousin, I specifically didn’t send an invite to because I wanted him no where near my event, showed up with his mom who was invited. It’s been 5 years and it still frustrates me to this day he had the nerve to show up and I couldn’t do anything without causing a scene.
In Australia, if the church service is in a different location to the reception, it's usually fine to rock up to the ceremony, if you don't have an invite to the reception. You just don't go to the reception too.
12:59 All that sounds good Jamie, but in this day where now we are creating Wedding Websites 🤷 that has all the wedding info, it can be easier for the un-invited to find out. Often it's from another friend or family member. This un invited person may not be "sloppy" just not invited (we do have limits to keep) and Invited guests do not know who isn't. They may share info or🙀 access with others.
I know, you can't fix or predict everything, but it's another thought on how we can limit info so the un-invited isn't privy to it. 🤔
Not Jamie literally forgetting her child! 🤣 All love, I was just laughing so hard! Great video!
I live in Southern Ohio. No one and I mean no one rsvps. Had 300 people at my wedding ceremony. 200 at my reception. Only had 10 people rsvp. Also we have a lot of cash in cards. Like got 1,000 dollars in cash.
My mother once unknowingly crashed a wedding. It was at a city farm close to where we lived, a place that often did events for families and children. She thought it was an open day or something and walked in, as she had never been but knew of the place. She realised when she was mingling and eating canapés and someone ask her how she knew the couple 😂 😅
Said no kids and then an Uncle and Aunt brought their teenager when they knew only 30 people were invited. We held our ground and said an absolute NO when all of family pleaded with us. She ended up hanging out in the hotel room. One of my proudest moments standing my ground and setting a boundary.
Hey Jamie. About you note on be careful to not talk about your wedding on social media. But, what happens if your guest start talking on their own. My mom have been talking to friends of hers (that she didn't invite to my wedding) about my wedding and they now want to come lol. I think even if we brides take your advice, you can't control everyone. So, I'm letting my security handle that 🤣😅😂
Congratulations on your baby, Jamie! 😍
Great video, as always, thank you so much
I had a guest invite 2 extra people that were clearly not on the invitation. It was very uncomfortable but we just let it go like elsa lol😂.
So, what do you guests put in the cards when you live in a country where cheques have been discontinued and are no longer accepted by banks?
I do think it's a cultural thing. I'm getting married in Antigua, Guatemala, and my wedding planner is telling me to be very direct and clear because it is so common for Guatemalans to bring extra people in their families. More than half our guests will be Guatemalan so my fiancé is planning to have a conversation with everyone in their family so they are clear about who is on the invite. It's a lot since we are inviting 240 guests! I just don't know what we are going to do if extra people show up.
My wedding is in 3 days and I NEEDED this video! Thanks so much for all your help, from the Master Plan to your YouTube Videos, I couldn't have done it without your channel, so Thank You Jamie! Much love from Missouri! ❤