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Weddings have become too stressful and complicated these days. My niece decided to tell her cousin (mother of two) she didn't want kids at her wedding. Caused unnecessary hurt and drama in my family. Some people really need to just elope.

It depends. Just because it was a 7 year friendship doesn't mean it was a deep one. If it was a best friend, I'd invite. If it was just someone I knew for 7 years that I wanted to see again at the wedding, there's nothing wrong with refusing to invite their boyfriend. Weddings are stressful enough as is. If they're my friend, they would show up and respect my decision. It's my day, not theirs. The friend who got mad over it, made the situation all about themselves and their needs, when this is the bride's "hopefully" once in a lifetime special event. I'm on the bride's side.

It depends how much money the bride&groom have to spend for the wedding. Boyfriends and girlfriends change all the time and if everyone brings their +1, the size and the expenses on the wedding will double! So, I guess, the bride had to choose between not inviting her friend at all or just inviting her, without the boyfriend.

It sounds childish to say "because I don't know him." This isn't first grade "stranger danger" this is a wedding with grown adults.

The friend was in the wrong OF COURSE. She even sleeps with that guy…but can’t leave him for a few hours?!. As if he was a new born 🤦🏻‍♀️

If her friend had been such a good friend, for seven years, she should have wanted to meet her boyfriend the one she was crazy about!

The bride fault. That was not proper Etiquette at all. Her friend would be all alone.

I could see that she didn’t want a guest she didn’t know at her wedding. It is her wedding so she gets the choice. If it was that important to her to know her guests she could’ve found a time to meet the couple for coffee or even on a Zoom meeting to say hello and extend the invitation after meeting him.

Though off topic, this reminds me of when as a single mother, I put together and paid for my daughter's wedding and was stunned and aghast when distant members of the groom's family showed up with their uninvited adult children whom brought their girlfriends, boyfriends, and their friends some of whom had children, showing up in a mob of uninvited people for whom of course, there was no seating let alone place settings! Of course I politely accommodated this display of very poor manners and surprising violation of wedding etiquette. Knowing the groom's side of the family didn't do anything without checking with the groom's mother, I didn't have to think very long or hard on how this occurred. This woman also gathered the groom's relatives during the reception for a family photo leaving my daughter out, while she stood on the sideline hurt and watching them assemble after which they all walked away. Very hurtful, very telling as well. After the bride and groom left the reception to go on their honeymoon, take a guess who directed the family members of the groom's side to pack up all remaining buffet food (worth about $800) and take it home, without asking me, the one who paid for everything? Yep, the same one who took the cake and cake topper, rendering it impossible for the bride and groom to eat it on their 1st anniversary? Yep, the groom's mother!
Again, prophetic. They never made it to their 1st anniversary. His mother insisted on being the 3rd uninvited member in their marriage. Bad manners to a poor understanding of boundaries. 12 years later…my daughter has yet to date again. There is much to be learned in hindsight.

The bride should have invited the boyfriend. Paybacks are h***. Lost a longtime friend! DUH!

i wouldn’t say who’s wrong. It’s just that their friendship is really not that deep.