DECODING The Wedding Dress Code 🔎👰‍♀️🤵‍♂️

When in doubt, ask for more info! The last wedding I attended as a plus-one, hadn't met anyone from that circle yet, I asked my partner what "casual" meant to that couple.. The way he described it was "The best man is going to be wearing basketball shorts and a t-shirt. Even for the ceremony." Glad I asked. Dressed up just enough to feel comfortable meeting all those new people but still look like a background character. Casual is so freaking vague 😂

For the engaged couple: it's important to remember that the dress code you choose reflects the event itself. When you say black tie you're expected to provide a black tie level guest experience.

We’ve done the smush and offered “funky formal” – our poor guests! I’m so here for it 😂

So if my wedding color decorations is white blue and pink , and my bridesmaids and the other guys are wearing pink & blue, is it a good or bad idea to have guest wear pink & blue.

gala is pronounced gal (like a girl) – uh

I'm considering a dress code of "creative black tie preferred". There would be a further style guide down in the packet of the invitation.

We don’t really use dress codes in Germany, I don’t think, but here it’s sort of like a given that the couple is the fanciest of course and then it kinda goes down depending on your connection to the wedding couple. The bridal party and their families can wear formal and the other guests will usually look more casual. If you’re a plus one invited to someone’s wedding who you don’t know well and you show up with a formal long dress, it might seem like you’re trying to outshine the couple haha – I don’t know why

I second that question from @housewarmin. I’m putting it on the invitation for guests to wear all black and I’m okay with accent colors but I don’t want people to come in wearing something other than black as the main color. Also how can I word on the invitation that our Littles are invited to the ceremony, but not the reception and that there will be a kids party for them that involves catered Chick-fil-A, pizza, and movies while parents get to have a free night? I don’t want to ruffle feathers. How do handle the situation if someone thinks they are above the rules?

Jamie, I need help. I'm going to a wedding next month down on Cape Cod and the instruction was "cocktail formal". Is this like "summer black tie"? I'm so confused!

Modern Bride magazine used to have a chart in every issue.

Plots twist, I’m neither of those two types of people but I’m enjoying the content anyway