Jamie Wolfer
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How to be the Best Wedding Guest. Ever.
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So Jamie, I have attended a number of weddings with my wife when she was my girlfriend as well as fiancé. I don’t dance at weddings (not counting slow dances) and I’m not into typical dance music. I am a rock and roller and I sing myself. Most of the dance music played at weddings doesn’t move me and I always thought that by dancing to it to please someone else, I wasn’t being true to myself. I have had therapy (before I was a therapist) addressing this and it has nothing to do with a bad experience. I was never laughed at. I am my own worst critic so someone has nothing on how I used to think of myself. When I used to go to clubs, I was young 18-22 and 1. Drinking and 2. Had an agenda. Now I don’t have either one of things because I’m sober and married. I know it’s a special occasion but not everyone dances. It’s not that I can’t. I can but I just don’t want to. People (guests) have had conversations saying I looked mopey at a couple of these weddings but I highly doubt the bride and groom saw me. They appeared to be too busy with everybody else to notice what I was doing. The dance floor is not a place for me. Sometimes I wish I didn’t feel like that but it’s a wallflower thing. I know there’s people out there like me who can identify. I admire people who can just go out on the dance floor and just shake it up at a moment’s notice.
Thanks for inviting me – good!
This is why i chose a long engagement.
Is there a video around for how to be a good bride for your wedding planner? Asking for a friend…
I one hundred percent agree with the don't monopoilize their time one
I disagree with don't bring a gift. It's expensive to move in with someone after getting married and any gift or free item, even money is helpful
Don't toast unless your involved in the wedding or directly related to the couple
I am scared of what my guests will wear. I want to send a dress code.
I really hope nobody does the annoying glass tapping thing.
I was just mr wondering about this yesterday is you had a video like this!!? And it’s at the top of my recommended list( note, I have been watching your videos a lot)
My wedding guest rules: no judgement towards ANYONE. Pyjamas allowed, leaving early because you're tired fine, toast what you want.
I respect all you're saying but this is my perfect wedding
Sending this to all my guests
Thanks so much- your videos are helping me plan my pandemic wedding. I wish I could send this video to a few selected people but instead I am going to post it on Facebook and hope someone gets a hint
Great video. I’m going to my cousins wedding in 2 weeks and wanted to make sure I had all the etiquette down. I’m very thankful my siblings and I were invited considering it’s a no kids wedding and pretty much all of us are underage 😅
If my pets aren’t involved in the wedding, please don’t bring yours😅
Never ever post a picture of the bride on social media before she does.
I'm usually a blast at weddings but thanks for the tips you rock!!!!
"Walking into a cactus" 🌵 lol that would be me.
I can't believe people actually bother the couple while they are eating. That's so awkward. It should be obvious they are enjoying their food and a little quiet moment. Plus shouldn't those guest be seated and focusing on their own food at this moment?
When my ex husband and I got married, his mom's friend cut right into the top of the cake . My mom was horrified and his laughed saying, "well, too late now!" I really thought our moms were gonna come to blows…
I didn't know I needed this video until I saw it!
My partner and I argue over if cameras that aren't the professional photographers should be allowed in the ceremony. I just want a nice, tech free ceremony photos and videos and don't care whether his family need those personal photos to share to the world. He doesn't care because we live in a technology society and doesn't see my problem coz he just wants me to be in the moment and not have a care about my surroundings but this matters to me coz I know if someone is trying to take photos, they aren't paying attention to the ceremony and that makes me feel like I'm wasting money so I'm on the verge of just murdering him hahahaha
The 5 people who disliked this photo ARE the bad guests, like the iPad photographers or random toasters lol
My moms bridesmaid & maid of honour got super drunk at her wedding. Her maid of honour puked in the lounge area and my mom has to take care of her and her brides maid peed in their rental car 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
This is so awesome. Way to go, guests!!
I am going to add this to my wedding website
Don’t bring a gift? No I want gifts
“Even if you bite your lips like a middle age white guy”
“I got you gurrrrrl” 🤣 This is my fave “morning show” to watch while I have my coffee and clean up!
I think all of these suggestions are good and really just common sense — which is so uncommon these days. But stop with how much the bride & groom are paying for the wedding. It's tacky and sends the message that good guest behavior is contingent on how much the bride and groom spent per guest. Less affluent couples also deserve well behaved guests.
can you talk about a weekend wedding and how that might differ from a single day wedding?
For a weekend wedding, im talking about a hotel or airbnb rented for three days so the wedding is on one day, the day before is the bridal party luncheon and rehearsal dinner and after is a family brunch. Not the "we are having a three day reception" lol
Ohh my goodness the dog thing, we had this issue at our wedding. Our wedding venue was out in the country side and dogs were allowed as the venue was also used as holiday accommodation. However people didn’t seem to see why bringing their dogs to a wedding probably wasn’t a good idea. We had to go round and specifically ask people NOT to bring their pets after I found out that some were planning to. However on the day one still turned up with a dog which was present in the ceremony and throughout the whole day. Worst part was I found out a few months later that it wasn’t even their dog, they were looking after it while the woman that lived next door to them was on holiday!! At that point I just had to take it as something I couldn’t change and refused to let it ruin my day.
I totally get the couple having their own pets involved because pets are part of the family, but that’s THE COUPLES pets! I don’t know why it was so hard to understand haha
You can believe that come the 6 month, 6 week, 1 week and 1 day before my wedding, I will be sharing this video for all to see and take the hint!
Are you supposed to buy a house or have a wedding first ?
What am i supposed to wear/not wear?
This is the first wedding I'm going to that I'm not in and NEVER have thought about what to wear before. But my cousins are all getting married and one is having a church ceremony and the other is having an outdoor backyard thing and I'm lost
Toasts during dinner is a best way to avoid 2 of those
maybe its my family and the way I was raised but I disagree with a lot of this. Please give a toast, no dinner won't be the only time I'm eating, please take photos, please bring your pets! I don't know my wedding is super casual at a water park and the photography is split between two family friends so…
Would it be wrong of me to post this on my wedding website?
Yes! It’s crazy how oblivious guests can be! I would also add two things that I’ve seen a lot:
1. If the couple have bought Polaroid film for cameras and have a table set up for guests to take photos (something I’ve seen at tons of weddings) and you have your kids with you, even if they’re teens, don’t let them grab a camera and go around taking photos… because nine times out of ten most of those photos will be of nothing and I saw this happen at two of my friends weddings and Polaroid film is too expensive to be wasted on photos of black and hands and feet and blurry stuff!
2. This was kind of mentioned but if at the reception you see the couple taking photos for like golden hour or in a cute little lounge area or where the lighting is good or something LET THEM TAKE ALL THEIR PHOTOS before you rush in to take photos of yourself with your friends or with them or something- ESPECIALLY if it’s like sunset where the lighting is going to change- look we get that you want nice photos in that lighting too but the most important thing is that the bride and groom get all the photos they want in the short pretty period of time with their paid for photographer without people around them taking selfies and photos too because they can’t wait till the couple is done. I’ve seen this way too much and it’s so annoying!
If you drink PLEASE CONTROL YOURSELF. Know where your limits are and don't go over them. And for the love God if you know you should not be drinking, please don't. At the last wedding I went to there was a man who was drinking even thought he should not have been due to medical reasons, and he ended up passing out. Long story short he wasn't breathing for a good 3 minutes before the paramedics showed up. They closed off the area to work on him and it was 10 minutes of waiting and crying. He woke up but they took him to the hospital. He's okay now, thank goodness. Please please please control yourselves. If there is something you know you should not eat or drink, DON'T EAT IT. The bride and groom are already stressed enough. Please let them be able to enjoy themselves
What's your opinion on Honeymoon Jars over wedding gifts?
Ideally the only electronic device in the ceremony space is the photographer's cameras, and if not the rest are on vibrate, nestled comfortably in pockets for the hour or two it takes.
Jamie, I notice you often mention the DJ and dancing. My fiancé and I are not dancers. We don’t even want dancing at our wedding. It would be very non-traditional. No first dances, garter tosses, and not even a cake cutting. We’re not into those ‘it’s done because it’s always been done kind of traditions’. Do you have tips for people who want more of a fun, outdoor gathering than a traditional reception?