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“How to RSVP” wasn’t addressed.
Trying to respond to an emailed invitation.
What I have found is that people don’t understand what RSVP means. Most people think that you only RSVP if you are attending. Heard this a million times 🙄
Beautiful
I'm completely on board with your wedding etiquette.
I'm curious what your thoughts are about British wedding invitations? Often you have waves of invitations, some guests may be invited to the ceremony and dinner, and some may only be invited for the dancing party towards the end.
I'm not British, but I think it's quite rude to invite guests you care about to only a portion of your celebration.
Is Tracy related to Judge Jeanine Pirro, her eyes, manner of speech and gestures are strikingly similar; if they don't know of a relationship between them, well then I'd say somewhere there was ons.
If you can’t make a wedding, do you still need to send a gift/money? And if so how much?
That little daughter interruption was so sweet 🤣☺🌹
Speaking of catastrophes: If you get sick, what is generally too sick to come, and what is too healthy not to come? Or should I just warn the hosts and let them decide?
I am so glad that I found your channel! I'm trying to turn myself around and become a better woman. Thank you for your incredible content! I am so excited to start on the right foot!
Very good sis. All I want to say is my friend of 5 years invited me for one of the two receptions while another pal of his got invited for 2 days as the wedding was a two day process. I deduced from this that he may not see me as close a friend as that other guy.
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Maybe you can give me some advice. At the end of May I sent out an electronic invite via text for my baby shower at the end of June. Only a couple of people acknowledged the invite or RSVP'd. Do I need to send a reminder to those who didn't respond? Then maybe 1 week before send a reminder text to those who RSVP'd?
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts on adults only! I'm relieved that I did indeed address my invitations correctly to indicate an adults only event… despite the fact that my family members didn't pick up on it…lol. -_-
My cousin is getting married…just got an invite.. Thank you for this video!!! Very helpful Tracy ☺👍
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If a couple has a wedding registry are you supposed to give them something off the registry day of the wedding or give them cash? I always thought registries were for the bridal shower or people who couldn’t attend and cash was given if you were attending the wedding.
Hi Tracy, I am a little behind on my video watching but just had to let you know what a great video this is. I got married at age 43 and it was my husband's second marriage, so we didn't want a big wedding. We live in Florida, but most of our relatives live in Tennessee and North Carolina, so we chose a wedding chapel in the Smoky Mountains. They have weddings on the hour and maximum guests of 50. Naturally we started invitations with immediate family and my hope was to invite more distant relatives after receiving any "no" responses. It floored me that people didn't respond despite having an addressed, stamped envelope to do so! And I had a cousin get highly upset that her two year old wasn't invited!
We’re going to a wedding tomorrow. And I also have 5 children. The invite was addressed to the whole family and the RSVP was online with every child’s name available to check off. Very clear. I appreciated that.
When I got married, I spent over $500.00 on people who said they would be attending but never showed up. Furthermore, they never tried to explain, afterwards, why they didn't show up. I was painfully aware of each of them, but I never confronted them and ended up deleting them from my life.
I invited one person, in particular, plus one. She RSVP'd for three, which included her two-year-old son. I was pretty upset because i didn't want a toddler screaming and throwing a temper tantrum during my wedding ceremony and being forever memorialized in the video. But I didn't know what to say to her because i didn't want to come across as being rude. I cried major tears to my wedding coordinator, and she said she would handle it for me, so I relied heavily on her. I also had to pay an adult price for the two-year-old for the reception. They never showed up.
Even though there were people who RSVP'd stating they couldn't come, I understood; and they even sent cards and gifts in their absence. They will forever hold a place in my life.
So having been a bride, I extremely understand the importance of the RSVP. But some people just don't know or have a clue or don't care. So your video is definitely needed!
I love the idea of "four seats are reserved for you", so if maybe one sibling couldn't make it, then that would leave a spot for the other's boyfriend, etc. Also, on my friend's wedding invitation, she wrote "We love your kids, but thought you might like a night off. Adults only please." which I thought was a really friendly but clear way of say no kids allowed. 🙂
Thanks for teaching things we should all know, but amazingly don't. 💕
Can you please make a "what to wear to a wedding" video or something along those lines? I never know what to really wear that would be appropriate for the wedding but also comfy enough for the reception
This was nice. Very good tips. I would not have thought about compensating with a check (but I've never NOT gone either when I did rsvp) but it was a great idea nonetheless; very thoughtful. There is enough pressure/anxiety/thoughts on the brain that are on the bride and groom already; make it easy for them. It's their day. It's about them. Not us.
Every year my husband & I host Christmas party for a group of friends. Only adults are listed on the invitations. This is a fun, festive evening everyone looks forward to enjoying without their children, even if those children are now adults. The dinner is catered & guests request their menu preference when they RSVP. We have a nice sit down dinner with the correct number of place settings, so those RSVPs are important. Within the past couple of years, 2 of my guests have called or texted within HOURS of the party asking if their college age children could attend. The phone call especially flustered me because I didn't have time to think of a polite, tactful way to answer on the spot. I told my friend the party was only for the adults invited & she seemed more surprised than I did!! In fact, I know the situation offended her because a few months later she mentioned in passing that I didn't "let" her daughter come to my party! To the friend who texted me, I told her that my own college age children would not be in attendance & she seemed to understand. After watching your video & snapchats, I now realize there were better ways to have responded to these situations, but at the time I was just so flabbergasted!
Thank you, Tracy, for another wonderful video; you are such a gem & I appreciate ALL you do!!
Love to you & your family! XO
I agree with you wholeheartedly! I also feel that if the wedding invitation is addressed to include the whole family and you have small children, out of respect for the Bride and Groom, you should ask to be seated at the back of the venue. This way if you have a baby or young child that could interrupt the ceremony, you can quietly slip out and not disrupt anyone. I also feel the same way about church services. Love your videos and the advice you share. Love and hugs to you!
I love this video. I think it's great and informative.. I just think you could have gotten your points across in less time. This video was longer than it should have been.
I had a weird situation happen and would like your thoughts. A friend of our family’s started a relationship that both my wife and I have seen as abusive. We have spoken to our friend several times about our concerns, and we know that many other people have done the same. As a result, our friend ended up withdrawing from us and the concerned others, and she became engaged to her abuser.
We were very surprised to receive a wedding invitation in the mail, and the invitation instructed us to RSVP on their wedding website. We thought we would simply need to click “Attend” or “ Not Attend,” but instead, the website was designed so that you could not submit a response until you also typed a note of well wishes to the bride and groom. Do you feel like it is appropriate to force people to write you a letter if you are getting married?
Tracy, I loved this video, thank you! This is totally off subject, but whenever you mention your 5 children, I always think was she THIS put together when her children were younger? I have 2 small kids, & I would love a video on how you handled the younger years, being organized, cooking meals, cleaning – all of it! I’m sure you have many words of wisdom I would love to know!!!!
Loved this! We all need a refresher on proper etiquette! Thank you, Tracy! 🌺💕
Great advice! I guess it would be rude for me to send this video to some people, LOL. Our family is, notorious for not RSVPing and I end up having to call to see if they are coming. Doesn't make me mad or anything, I just know that that is what I will end up doing. I totally get the "no children" at weddings. Doesn't bother me at all. It is up to the bride and groom. My niece did this recently and some family didn't attend, but others said that they were happy to have a date night.
Great topic, great advice! Our family has a tradition of having children at the receptions, & tongues would wag if it were an adult only. I know it is the bride & groom’s day, but sometimes family expectations make it a little touchy. Thanks for keeping your mom daughter interaction in there, loved it.😊
Great video 💕💕