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Surprising History of Some Marriage Traditions
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👰💍 In this video, we dive into the surprising history of some well-known marriage traditions! From the origin of the honeymoon to the story behind the garter belt, we’ll uncover the fascinating stories that have shaped these customs over time. Join us as we…
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Tradition is peer pressure from dead people.
Definitely need to get out of the “this is the way it’s been” mentality when facing change
Wow
If you watch alot of kdramas involving historical, period piece type settings, alot of what this tiktoker said pretty much happens for weddings and honeymoons. But it would mainly involve the prince and princesses or the king trying wed a woman to be the next queen and forcing a new offspring for to keep the whole royal bloodline to continue. They were mainly in favor of a new prince than a princess. And if they ended up with twins, they would try to get rid of one of the twins by either selling them off or unaliving them, especially if the twins were a set of twins with one boy and one girl. And you could take a wild guess on which twin they would try their hardest to get rid of.
I just about was curse out for not believing in bridal parties.
It’s expensive and those heffas don’t care about you.
Marriage, as a tradition, is something we can leave behind as well. Unless you want to have kids by a particular man, and not go the sperm donor route. Still, there are a lot of pitfalls with going that route to parenthood as well, so maybe give that a ton of thought.
Tradition is just another form of control.
Even many of the fairy tales are disgusting. Sleeping beauty is one such example. Many other fairy tales in the original are literally the male kidnapping the young woman, mm child.
As a married woman why are you always bashing marriage?
So basically marriage at it's foundation was never set up in a way to include the happiness of the bride. It was for her a means of survival. This is why now that the "survivial" aspect of marriage is no longer an issue (women can now own their own money, property, etc,) it's a hard sale to those of us who see it for what it is once there is no facade to hide behind. Your better off just dating and making sure you both have your respective homes to go back to. The average marriage seldom makes it past the 5-7 year itch so at least this way you don't pay a lawyer to have a "divorce".
So essentially women WERE forced to be slaves to men. To be bought and sold.
And people look at me like I'm crazy when I say marriage is barbaric.
My mom meet my dad just 3 times before marrying him. She gave up her education cause her family pressure her into for the American sponsorship.
just goes to show that republicans and conservatives are dege . ner . ates and pe . do . philes
Who doesn’t know this though? Research everything, don’t just believe things you were just told to believe blindly, it why I searched origins of a lot of things when I was younger….
“TRadItiOnal maRriage bEtweEn onE mAn & One wOman…” No sir/ma’am, most marriages used to be between one man and MULTIPLE women, and even in monogamous societies, like Greece and Rome, the husband was still free to fool around/grape with sex workers and slaves.
And the wedding bouquet was to disguise the bride's stench.
Many traditions are just peer pressure from dead people. It's 2023 and traditions can be changed. Let's create new practices for new times and give future generations 3:38 permission to do the same.
I learned a lot, will dig deeper still.
I knew about the public consummation, but I was really shocked to see how much thought they put into it when I visited Versailles, every time I went there I was imagining Marie Antoinette, 14, being raped in front of all these people.
The beds are actually very small, they slept at 90°
There is this small bed in the middle of the room, with enough space to fit multiple people that would watch you being raped, to ensure it's done "right", until you get pregnant.
There is no time in history where it was better for women before, especially for the less unfortunate ones.
For nobody really, except perverts, creeps and people who like to own other people.
Another consummation "tradition": If the families didn't watch the marriage being consummated, the groom would hang the bloody sheet out the window as proof for the whole village/town to see.
😯 I learned a whole lot from this
It's about "loooooooooove" though! 😅
And wearing white wedding dresses is an England tradition, popularized by one of the England Queens. And the wedding ring was not a glamorous gift like we envision today.
This just put the nail in the coffin for me. F marriage
Yeeeaaahhh….the fact that I knew some of these going in and was STILL shocked coming out?! Nope!!! I don't think marriage is for me. Ever.
Oh The Accuracy. Most of these Traditions & Laws are also stemming from Justinian Laws; which were the foundation of Roman Laws; which were adopted by The Catholic Church; which continues to influence British Rule as we know it; which dictates ALL British Colonized Land Masses. These little Incels would love to re-evoke Prima Nocte like the Devils they truly are 😑💅🏾
She said what she said! In 2023 we no longer have to be bound by traditions unless we WANT to be!
Solutions eventually become problems. Wow I didn’t know any of this and we have been lied to! Excellent break down!
Exactly why I won’t be getting murried 😂😂😂😂
on top of all this, these were CHILDREN married to adults. submission is another throwback to these traditions. the husband took the place of the father in the transaction. the child bride had no rights to consent, land, property, education, or literacy, and her husband could discipline (i.e. spank) her for not following his orders. the husband, as her guardian, could also be punished and publically ridiculed if he didn't control his child–i mean, bride.
This and so many more reasons are why I do what's best for me. F tradition.
Wow!! I'm shook. 😳😳😳😳
Thanks for the info
Or carrying the bride over the threshold comes from the tradition of kidnapping the bride, forcing the bride to marry, then dragging the protesting bride to her new home.
Once again BM will skip OVER the part about Bring able to AFFORD a woman … smgdh lmao 😂😂😂
I am sentimental, thoughtful and on occasion romantic with proper planning but my wedding will be anything but traditional
I've said for a long time that tradition and culture is other people's lives. We can still love and respect our ancestors without doing all the same things they did.
Shotgun weddings too so the groom couldn't run away! Just awful!
Shiiiiddd!😒
This is disgusting. The garter, the purpose of the best man, the veil, and last but DEFINITELY not least, the public consummation.
Thank god for the women who protested and died for our right to say no.
So basically our ancestors went against their own traditions. So much for forgotten solutions.