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For the ceremony drinks you could do sparkling drinks like white grape juice so there's no worry about liquor licenses and people being drunk. But like she said, money. Depending on number of guests the drinks and cups alone can run you hundreds to thousands of dollars.
Go get some water before the ceremony. You'll be fine lol.
Hubs and I did gift bags for our wedding party – only three bridesmaids and groomsmen – and we got little things from Amazon and around town for them, and my hubs got stuff from a groomsmen shop online. Was still kinda expensive at probably $500 for everything. The only personalized item was a note for each of my bridesmaids.
For the second girl it sounds like her photographer didn't even do a photography timeline. They should have.
Also had cookie favors. Can confirm everyone loved them.
My "wedding" cost ~$300, the cost of dinner for both families at the nice buffet we went to. A few weeks later we had a "reception"/"congrats on your PhD"/moving away party. The room was free from my in laws' community center, we did a pot luck kind of thing with us providing most of the food. We had games and activities and chatting. Second cheapest wedding I've seen lol My partner's cousin had a reception at a park pavilion. Partner and I were too low maintenance for a whole to-do . Our besties did a Halloween interfaith costume wedding catered by a taco truck.
If you can’t get through a wedding ceremony without an alcoholic drink.. you are an alcoholic.
The idea of having the wedding party enter after the bride and groom in order to perform better sounds a lot like something I’ve seen at Jewish weddings where people perform skits or funny gags for the bride and groom. I don’t know the name for it or why we do it, but I’ve seen it a few times at Jewish weddings.
Could do sparkling cider for the ceremony to give you that bubbly feeling
I have been with my husband for 16 years. We have 4 kids and we aren’t married. Just wasn’t my thing
But listening to you makes me excited for other brides! What a fun party!
Love your channel. You have such a great personality especially how you offered your subscription to plan timeline but didn’t try to “sell it”!
I just found your channel and am about dig through your videos, but in case you haven't done this (you've probably already done this)- tips for destination elopements would be AMAZING! My not-yet-fiancé (we have a ring being made and I like to be ahead of the game 😂) and I are planning on doing this and I am INTIMIDATED!
I love this!! Getting so many ideas, thank you!!
Cupcakes may be cheaper (no cutting fees or plates), but a piece of cake is so much better (in my humble opinion)!
Man, i Needed this a year ago, but alas, in two weeks I'll be a married woman. Lol
I watched your videos a lot when planning my wedding and only regret I have about the day is forgetting to do a newly wed game during the break between music (we had 2 musical sets, a more 'traditional' (at least in my country) wedding pianist that played wedding related songs that my husband's side of the family enjoyed; during that performance my side kept bugging me 'i thought you said you were doing a rock band, when is the band you promised performing'; and a rock band of highschoolers which my side enjoyed more but everyone was so hyped up for them and thanked us for basically organising concert for them to enjoy.
We had a themed wedding, which is unusual for my country, the theme was timetravel so we encouraged our guests to come dressed throughout the decades and if they couldn't it was acceptable to dress in modern fashion (since present is also a time period) one guest even dressed as the doctor who which i and my husband approved.
We had fortune cookies as wedding favoirs thanking our guests for coming.
My husband and I had a room set aside for us at the venue instead of going straight home so all the stuff we could move tomorrow morning (all in agreement with the venue) and my family could stay at our home, while the money and gifts stayed with us
The only thing I nor my husband planned for was cake cutting song, so we had to think of a song on the spot, we were satisfied with our pick of bella ciao
Only regrets (that were in my control) is I completely forgot to play newly wed game during the change of the bands, but tbh we were ambushed by cake cutting song at the time
In my culture, the bride and groom walk in together, which I find very sweet.
There is so much in this video I only seen in movies, or never even heard of before. 🤭
Also, of you have a church wedding, or other religious ceremony, serving drinks on joly ground seems very disrespectful. 😮
Love what you said about your husband and your first look pictures. My husband and I did first look pictures. Then I had to calm him down when some of our wedding party was late-ish.
I walk down the aisle and he has the biggest grin I have ever seen on his face.
And I totally agree with you on Starbucks. My maid of honor and I went and got Starbucks while waiting for the other bridesmaids to come and get their hair and makeup done. We planned on them being late so we had time.
My husband & I were married almost 11 years ago now. We spent the week before making apple cider for the drink table & caramel apples that people could eat while there or take home as the "thank you gift". It worked out so well. There were none left & his best man mentioned loving them a week later. My mom & his grandmother made cookies that we placed in those giant glass jars from Walmart. My parents found salted caramel mini-cupcakes at Sams about a month before & found out from the bakery that you can freeze them for quite some time in advance. We also had cakepops made from a local bakery & they set aside some of the batter for 2 small cupcakes just for us for our "cutting of the cake" moment. My dad & brother made the arch & my sister made all the jewelry & my veil piece. It was all really sweet & we have such good memories of the day mostly because of the hands on support we had with family during that time.
Recently had the "were going to start our future planning now" conversation with my bf of 5 years ! Just been watching all these videos so i can feel somehwat prepared when he pops the question 😂 i loved the picture with the tables idea. Going around saying hello to everyone seems VERY overwhelming to me on a already crazy day
You can hang the bouquet upside down to preserve it. You can press it. Have a fake model made by fake flowers
You can have a beautiful wedding on a small budget. My most expensive things were: the venue (they also help decorate and break things down and coordinate the day of), the catering (including a bar tender), the photographer, and my dress/vail.
A lot of it was DIY decor done by me. The cake was made by my husbands aunt who does professional cakes (free), the DJ was a family friend (free), the pastor was a family friend (we gave them a small fee to do it)
Heads Up as someone who lives in Oregon where Dutch Bros started: Look into their dealings with Native American's; as many are asking for the Boycott of Dutch Bros 🙂 So If I were you I would Stick to being a Starbucks Girlie
As someone who’s already married, this video was randomly recommended to me and I still watched the whole thing 😂 I’m super close to Waco and my sister in law does wedding hair and makeup so if you’re ever looking for more artists let me know! Her team does beautiful work!
Hi! Getting married 5/30/25. I would love to connect with you to help me write the timeline for my big day.
Ok but how do I become a wedding planner I would be so good at wedding planning
Idk what the budget was for my brother's wedding but it was fun and simple as hell. They didn't get married at a church, they got married outside where the venue was for the reception. There were simple decorations and a cute arch. I think someone in my sister in laws family was the officiant so I don't think that cost them anything. After the ceremony, people went inside or hung out on the outdoor patio for cocktail hour. It was a time for simple drinks that were being served, people were chatting and mingling then we heading into the dining area. There was a small dance floor with a bar in one corner and simple centerpieces on the tables I think provided by the venue. In the corner of the room was a backdrop and a table with a Polaroid camera for people to take pictures and put in their guest book and write sweet notes on it. I thought it was soo cute and a great idea for a guest book. For dinner, it was simple. I think the food was chicken with a pasta salad and some other small food. The dessert were these small cookies on a tiered tray in another corner of the room. The food was alright I'd say. Overall I thought it was an amazing wedding and I definitely would want to do the same thing they did where they had the ceremony and reception at the same place along with doing the Polaroid pictures for the guest book. It just feels like an inconvenience for the ceremony to be in one place and then everyone to pile up into their cars just to get to the reception. Overall it was an amazing time and it's nice it wasn't extravagant
We got stuck in conversation with our first table before sunset photos and only made it to 3 of 10 tables 😢
Venue owner here. I can not count the amount of times we looked around and said “who is cutting the cake?” The first few years. Now it’s a point on the final meeting convo because your girl is not cutting it. 😂
… Potted succulents, that is awfully specific. My uncle provided potted succulents, that he propagated himself, for his daughter's wedding.
dear friend from med school had her wedding at.a lovely venue that also had a bar open to the public. We were able to get drinks prior to the ceremony and were actually able to take a beer to where the ceremony would be! We had to pay ourselves, but it was a really nice thing to have for those of us who came early and wanted to catch up with friends from school!
My wedding cost less than $10K, lol. I'd rather invest the money in our future.
"Take time to say hello to all the guests."
Isn't that the entire purpose of a receiving line? Whatever happened to receiving lines, anyway?
In my country it is not tradition for the wedding guests to get some of the wedding cake, that is reserved fro the bride and groom and whoever close family and friends they decide to give it to after the wedding (usually the week after). The guests usually just get a small bite size pice of black cake in a cute box to go home with and maybe something cute from the bride and groom, when my aunt got married last year, they gave the ladies some cute scarves and the men got towels embroidered with the wedding date
I hope you make more videos in this style (in addition to your usuals, of course).They're a little less dramatic than the AITA videos (which I also like), but they provide insight in the specific context of how real people have done unique things or ran into specific problems.
Yesssss! Dutch Bros Cocomo gives me life!
I spent between $3000-5000 on my entire wedding about 10 years ago. Her idea of affordable and mine are soooo different. Also I had 0 wedding regrets.
As for the cake… make a smaller beautiful wedding cake and then yummy sheet cakes for serving. Looks great, tastes better, and serving is easier. We did cupcakes because we had a lot of families with children and cupcakes were easier to serve and eat.
Are there professional or DIY preservation ideas for Indian flower garlands? I will look for Indian YouTube videos too!
If you make your favours consumable, PLEASE remember your guests with allergies. They so often miss out. We have two cakes so that our gluten and dairy free people don’t miss out. Please consider allergies.
Do wedding planners book based off of morals and ethics as well? I've always wanted to be a wedding planner but I also refuse to help a wedding that takes place on a plantation.
Confession. I really only did the wedding reception for the presents. 😂
WITH THAT SAID…. I didn't want to spend a lot of money so my husband and I DIY most of our decorations and it was SO FUN, it was a great way to bond and our guests told us we did an amazing job.
I was a florist so I made my own bouquet (and one to throw) both I used silk flowers for so I let the gal who caught the one I threw keep or do whatever she wanted with it. As for mine its a decoration in my home ❤
Our baker had option to put a plate under the top teir for preservation of the cake.
Also one thing we did that I would do again is have the first song for everyone to dance to is the hokey pokey. We did that so no one would have an excuse of "I can't dance."
50k girl what ?! How expensive are weddings in the US ?
Genuine question as i don't know anything about weddings: why do you want to preserve the bouquet or take home parts of the wedding cake?
My #1 regret is not having a planner at all and thinking I’d save $ doing everything myself including buying my own music equipment and pro camera and building my own dance floor and arbor. Did a backyard wedding that was a shit show in 30Degrees that grooms cousin “photographer” lied and said she did photography when in fact she took one class and dropped out lol so no video and few pictures and she didn’t know how to operate camera even with $500 flash they were all dark as it didn’t start til 430pm middle of November lmao needless to say even using fake flowers and no catering (best man ran to grab BBQ which took over an hour) I spent just over $22000 and didn’t even get to have dinner with my new husband as I was trying to coordinate a shit show! Regrets a strong word but man what I could’ve got for $20,000!!! This amazing farm up the rd does amazing top tier packages including everything even overnight bridal suite photography cake all decor every freaking thing for just under 10k 😂
I’ve never heard of the things from the first video.
My cake was also butchered.
I preserved my bouquet myself like almost a week after my wedding lol. I put my bouquet in flowers cause i hasn't thought of preserving them yet. When i did I went on Amazon and got silica gel crystals and just watched a YouTube tutorial on how to use them to dry out my flowers. After 2 days they were all dry and i hot glued them in a shadow box with other things from my wedding (save the date, invitation, a piece of fabric from my dress).