The DARK SIDE of Wedding Planning | You're Not Alone

This is OUR wedding. Should we care about other people's opinions? Why does it hurt so bad? I wish I could create a shell for myself.

We eloped and now planning a wedding . Eloping takes some stress away bc no matter what already married. Now planning the wedding all this is coming up and all the family drama 🥲 glad this video is here to provide a start! ❤

Thank you so much, Jamie! <3 I love planning and it's starting to come together so nicely but the drama…it has brought me down to my knees and I don't have the energy or spirit to keep planning. So many people giving me the impression that I'm the bad guy and it has been the root of our first fight ever. And WHY? His mother's and aunt's dog can't come so refuse to attend the wedding. She has been throwing crying fits for months now. My aunt invited herself to my bachelorette party and when I politely said no she turned to my mother to say hurtful things and she refuses to come to the wedding and blocked us on social media. My cousin is maid of honor and can't come to the bachelorette because she prefers a trip to Italy and she's 'not into the activities'. My soon to be husband is incredibly hard to motivate or pin down so I feel like I'm planning the wedding for 80% on my own and that makes it even harder to keep going. Close friends get mad when I say that I strongly feel cancelling the whole thing and just elope but this has eaten away at my mental health, sleep,…I'm a wreck and it doesn't even seem to matter. Sorry for my long ramblings, I've never commented on a YT video before but I don't know who to talk to anymore.

What about family and friends that just don’t seem that involved? That don’t care one way or another about anything and are completely despondent despite pushing for our engagement?

Hey, can someone explain this wedding joke to me? I saw this happen in the hall near my brother's wedding reception. A female banquet manager was upset with a caterer, who had signed up for a one-person shift. She said she didn't think he could successfully do the service alone. She was sternly all, "I've told you not to sign up for shifts by yourself, I've been very clear about that, I don't know how much clearer I can get for you to listen. You need someone there to give you instructions and guide you." And then the caterer said, "You know, I'm beginning to see why you manage wedding receptions." What does his comeback mean? Whats the implied reason?

I’m so grateful to have come across your Chanel and site. I’ve been following you since I got engaged in 2022 and your videos have been nothing but advisable, thorough, but most of all down to earth. You email checkin have helped me stay focus and on time lolx

Thank you for making this video! You etiquettely described how I feel about people and their opinions of my wedding. Lolz Thank you validating and reminding us brides that it’s not always us that’s the problem.
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I listened to the whole video and I haven’t a clue what she’s talking about. I feel like she keeps alluding to the thing, but never addresses it.

I came to this video hoping to better understand why people are so sensitive about wedding planning. My fiancée and I are in the planning stage and she seems so much more serious about it. What’s wrong with me? Im happy to help pay, pick the venue, make and send invites, arrange for catering and dj’s and photographers. Beyond that, why stress about it so much? Why am I never caring enough about the wedding?

When I told my mom I was getting married she scream cried saying I was breaking her heart…

Wow. This video is what we all needed to hear. Thank you for this. ❤ excellent content..

I have a vision for my hypothetical wedding & my Mother wants to wear something that’s not only the complete opposite of that vision, but also an outfit that’s 20 years too young for her. It’s wedding GUEST appropriate, but not MOTHER of the BRIDE appropriate.

Nothing to do with the video but Your curtain pole is wonky. Sorry to say 😂. But as to the video i think people should talk about this. I have had to much crap that ive not even created because someone decided to course drama over our wedding rather than just say we cant attend were going on holiday. Instead the caused family drama from made up crap. 😂 stressful but ive just got to a point were im like i dont care leave me out of it

I needed this…. My wedding has been filled with so much drama.. so I have stage fright and we had a budget of only $3000 so we were planning on only having 100 people at the wedding… but it has now grown over 200. Between my mother in law not listening to my list, and my mother inviting people that I didn’t want invited and didn’t tell me till 2 weeks after the invites were sent… we are having a wedding we literally can’t afford. I sacrificed having my makeup and hair done on my day because we don’t have enough money… and my bridesmaid backed out 90 days before the wedding. Now I asked another girl. She said yes but then the next day she said no… I am so extremely stressed and I’d love to elope but we already spent so much money….

You are amazing 🤩- this video really helped me stay grounded and is such a relief as my mental health has deteriorated from all the drama caused by controlling in laws all while fiancé tried to stop me setting boundaries! After I kicked up a huge fuss I think he gets it now, but we as a couple are still recovering…

I just wish it never had to get so explosive as now there’s tension between both families…I hope someone here with similar experience could reassure me this will get better with time as right now it’s really frosty and my wedding is in a month ☹️🌺🙏

Wow I am trying to be a helpful groom and this video really opened my eyes too what is going on in her head. Her family is vary fancier then mine lol. Red neck cowboy / truck driver/ crazy family to her calm, well off, big family bonds . I'm getting to meet some of my family for the first time as a adult. Her on the other hand knows everything about her family. I didn't even think of all this uggg I feel like a A..H here

Thank you, thank you, thank you. Sooo my partner and I are THE most chilled people – we like an easy, no-nonsense approach to everything. Yet somehow, I'm in tears over freaking flower colours and other stupid, trivial things. A couple of people are making our lives harder than expected and I get actual panic attacks when I have to deal with wedding-related stuff. I've turned into a constant mediator and feel like I'm having to take the weight of all this. I wanted to get eloped but agreed to a 'small' wedding to compromise with my other half. As terrible as it is to say, I keep praying something goes wrong and we have to restart (then I can persuade a tiny wedding) 🤣. I can't wait to marry him, but can't stand this process 😫.

Lost one of my best friends and maid of honour I didn’t make bridesmaid dress shopping enough about her and pushed her out the door without trying on more dresses the dam shop was closing! Then she ghosted me after I tried to reschedule another appointment….

This has been one of the worst up & down, emotionally draining experiences of my life. I will absolutely lose some friendships by the time I walk down the aisle. It’s heartbreaking. So much grief about almost everything. Friends, family, all stressful.

Thank you for validating so much I’ve been going through