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This Could SAVE Your (Future) Marriage | Jordan Peterson Answers on What a Divorce Really Means
Dr. Jordan Peterson could save your marriage, or your future marriage, so, listen carefully.
Spoiler: It’s a vow!
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This is his best book, in my opinion: https://geni.us/DrJP
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This is his best book, in my opinion: https://geni.us/DrJP
HINT: You can get for FREE the audio version narrated by Dr. Peterson himself if you sign up for an Audible Trial.
What about if you’re cheated on and sworn at on a regular basis and called c**t. I’m sorry but there are people that you can’t say “I’ll never leave” to.
What is the original video for this?
What do you mean by ……. Market value….. I single parent can also be happy…. And have a relationship in the same city !!!
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What if the marriage breaks down to the point that physical violence ensues? I have left my home, dragging my now 7 year old son to whatever safe place I can obtain (women's shelter, a trusted friend's home) about five different times now because my husband and I have been in this perpetual cycle of the short-lived honeymoon phase, argumentative tension, and then complete meltdown/breakdown which often results in physical violence of both inanimate objects and myself. I always go back with some kind of hope that "maybe this time it will be different if I just do "this" differently or "that" differently. I am driven by this horrendous guilt for a multitude of reasons, one of them being that I know that I took vows and as a Catholic, I do not break those vows. I don't disagree with Dr. Peterson. A lot of marriages seem to just end because someone simply lost their luster for their spouse and the vows they took mean absolutely nothing. Too often, it's treated as a conditional agreement that can be discarded just as easily as it was undertaken. I just wonder where my kind of situation fits? It is a horrible position to be in, and it's one that affects the children. The kids see and hear everything and Lord only knows what kind of an impact that has on them. I also worry what I am teaching them by continuously giving in and returning.
I don't agree with this. I told my wife I'd never leave her and as a result she left me. I begged her to come back for 2 months and finally decided she ain't coming back. So I finally moved out, filed for divorce, and left.. Now she's playing nice and trying to work things out.
Sadly, in today’s society, this is a very dangerous topic. I’m going to add that a marriage without God is also doomed.. i’ve talked to many people that have been divorced and one common theme is the lack of God in the relationship. As Jordan points out in other videos, Believing means doing, not saying.
He's right that one way to stay married is to decide that it's what you're going to do
i was never married
im already divorced idiots
I destroyed my marriage. I am broken.
This is 100% true
I am not marrying NN
No matter what
This is my marriage to a T. My wife has unresolved trauma that makes her up and leave at the slightest disagreement, she’s left at least 4 times to stay with her mom or dad already and I’m the steadfast one that doesn’t go anywhere and holds strong to my vows. It also has made me develop a type of PTSD where I’m always the scared cat thinking she could just leave again at any time and I don’t feel a strong foundation to put marriage and I don’t have a sense of security in our marriage…
I mean, if she's trying to murder me in my sleep on a regular basis, it might be ok to leave
JP definitely cruises on the side for men. He seems like the typical Catholic “closet case” who needs mommy to wash his clothes while he goes to all male chemseggs parties. He hates women— it’s very clear
I believe I woke up way to late not knowing what a narcissist was I'm going back and forth for 36 years! Was not lucky in love always wanting to be married and have a big family my first wife 18 years and she left me after 18- years and got on drugs! Second wife from Mexico was the narcissist! I never knew what a narcissist was tell it was over and destroy me financially at the age of 62- years old! Have 8- children between the two of them and 9- grand children! Then blackmail them all against me! Then having betrayal trauma! Kinda hard to get back to working after all that!
THE LORD KNEW I COULD NOT PHYSICALLY HANDLE CHILDREN WITH MY EX! AND I SEE WHY THE THINGS UNFOLDED THE WAY THEY DID NOW! AND I THANK GOD FOR SHIELDING ME! EVEN THOUGH MOTHERHOOD WAS ALL I FELT I EVER WANTED!
I was in a relationship like that for four years. It was a nightmare.
Jordan, your perspective leaves out a lot! Find out your wife is cheating on you and see if your reality isn't blown to pieces. Even you Jordan cannot put humpty Dumpty back again. Would you keep honoring a business contract knowing your partner is robbing you blind? I don't think so or your one dumb person.
Well, when your spouse is doing whatever and won't talk to you, belittles you for being vulnerable and then pushes you out of the house for the second time… Yeah, I'm out. She'll never change until she addresses her childhood traumas
5 love languages, Gary chapmen an amazing book to read together
For this to work, both parties have to be LOYAL. Too many men CHEAT and think it’s acceptable since they have no intention of leaving their wives. No one deserves to remain in a marriage with a cheater.
The only thing wrong with my parents' divorce is that it took way too long to happen!
Didn’t your daughter divorce his husband.
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Guys, could you please explain what does he mean here by “you have no continuity of narrative”?
The concept in thinking you can be miserable in the only relationship in life youll ever have if you pick the wrong person, is really sad, that to me is not an accomplishment its a zero accomplishment. Early religious conditioning , all about suffering.
Maybe thats why he always looks so angry LOL !!!!!!
Problem is: Modern women in the West can vow all day long but they always reserve the right to change their minds. That's just a fact. I'm not picking on women because I'm a misogynist. I say this because women are the ones filing for divorce 70% of the time. I don't think the average person in the West realizes how much impact modern feminism has in informing our views and attitudes. It's crept into every corner of our culture. Now we have created this weird dicotomy where most women are never held accountable for anything ever. The younger they are the more likely they've never been held accountable. Without accountability you cannot admit that you are trouble too.
too true and powerful
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no you can divorce if it didnt workout man i dont get people really forcing themself in in unhappy all their life for an men made agreement
I used to think that marriage is forever, too. Until my wife cheated on me two months into our marriage. I found out about a year later and we agreed to fix wherever caused this to happen.
Fast forward 13 years, i have nothing but contempt for her as with time more lies came about. To give the devil its due. I was not fully invested from that betrayal forward and did things that were detrimental as i felt justified. In the end we are both left hurting and our kids suffer for it.
Sometimes, we are just naive. Vetting properly could have saved us all the trouble. Similar values, growing up in healthy families and being honest should be of up most importance.
This is literally me and my partner, his uncle abused him when he was 5 and every time I do or say something he doesn't like he threatens to leave. We have three kids together and he swears he is over the abuse and has moved on but I see the cracks all the time.
Can someone point me to the original video?
Divorce was invented by a man but is being used by mostly women. Shit idk what I’m typing.
This is why Gods plan is best for marriage. No option for divorce except possibly infidelity or abuse. If the option to divorce is not there, the marriage is more likely to succeed.
My 56 year old husband is planning to leave me once our son goes to university in two years. He is slowly devaluing me now. It is very painful. He says it has nothing to do with me so all hopes of change and reconciliation is shut down. I know that it's more of his need to seek novelty! I don't know what to do. I'm mourning all the positive things we bring into the relationship!!
I swore to God and before a lot of people that I'd love my wife 'til my dying breath. Year 1 was rough, but instead of splitting, I stayed true by God's grace. We've been married for almost a dozen years now, love each other more than ever, and cherish our lives together with our kids. I'm with her, ride or die.
I think it depends on the personalities of other people the situation.
I agree with both stances.
Staying together should be the goal …
But some men like my husband, think that means they can do whatever they want and whatever they want because you’re not not going anywhere … so they ignore you and neglect you and act like they already have you so why work on the relationship?.
And I stupidly allowed him to have that attitude for far too long because I refuse to leave even if it was a temporary thing…
Some men need to know that if they pull certain types of things that you’re not going to stick around and break the covenant and the vows you made on your wedding day.
There is more to the marriage covenant and breaking it other than infidelity and abuse … there is neglect and self-centered, selfish self-serving behavior; not providing for your family; He was saying anything in and unhealthy manner to cope with your issues… ALL THESE THINGS ALSO BREAK THE MARRIAGE.
Now, if you can bring up those issues and discuss them and work through them , there’s no need to leave… yet if that person is not concerned and fights with you and calls you names and attacks you for bringing up something that is a problem to them… this is an endpoint because you can’t improve the marriage if the other person won’t see where the problems are.
The course of action you have after trying to resolve things several times is to put up with it continue hurting and risk being hurt over and over or take a leave of absence with the hope that it’s temporary.
I screwed up and betrayed my loves trust… but god I just want to fix it.