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Wedding Traditions that Are Perfectly Fine to Skip (If You Want)
Wedding Traditions that Are Perfectly Fine to Skip (If You Want). Different traditions that people likely won’t miss that you can skip for your day.
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For the favors it really depends on the culture. I do think it should not be for every gues more of a grab and go favor.
Absolutely EVERYTHING stated here is what I am not going to do. Another thing…having a small cake for the bride & groom & cupcakes for everyone else. Why? Most wedding guests won't eat cake & it means there will be less plates & forks required. Another thing…no kids at my wedding. Why? So there isn't any kids crying during our ceremony video, so parents can just relax & have some adult time & not worry about changing diapers or having to chase kids around or kids sticking their fingers into the wedding cake, etc. I am a firm believer in doing what you want to do for your wedding. Don't let anyone pressure you into anything. The wedding is the first day of your marriage…allow it to be all about you. I mean, you wouldn't buy a house & let everyone tell you how to furnish & decorate it, right? Why would you let people tell you how to do your wedding? Love your videos, Cavin! I would like to see more samples of your photography.
Garter toss is so weird and uncomfortable
I miss the reception line because once I traveled 19 hours to go to a cousin's wedding and I didn't get the opportunity to say hello to her or congratulations. The wedding was big.
Isn't the superstition about bouquet tosses that the woman who catches it is the next one to get married? That's why I didn't want to participate in the bouquet toss. You do you, but I think marriage is a misogynistic institution and I certainly don't want to get married, quite happy with my life long boyfriend thank you very much. I was trying to lay low at the last boquet toss I went to until the bride spotted me and waved me over. I made sure to stay at the edge, didn't want to get caught in any fights over the boquet.
One thing that’s definitely traditional to do at weddings that my man and I are definitely n o t doing: religious stuff.
Like, the reasons why are hella long and specific and I won’t go into it, but it’s not accurate to us… but at the same time, having no mention of any religion IS going to offend some of our friends and family. 🤷♀️ idk, I feel like making everyone happy will be impossible, and it’s our day to do as we please. At least we’re not subjecting them all to watching us do a “sexy” garter retrieval like you described 🙈 yikes
I want a non traditional wedding. But some of these I didn’t think about. Looks like I’ll be skipping more things
The other thing about seeing your partner before the ceremony is that you have time to take photos beforehand that way you don't have to spend 4hrs away from the party getting photos with each other and your bridal party you can do that before the guests arrive
Idk why or how the garter toss became a thing especially bc ppl are so weird with sex in the US it's taboo to talk about especially among families
I'm really comfortable talking about sex & being nude and I just think there is time and place it looks trashy to me
Whew felt a bit guilty for not preparing favors. Thanks for this video!!
The freaking garter toss! I've seen some groomsmen or single men start sniffing the garter or just generally being really inappropriate
Thank you for explaining why some women don't enjoy the bouquet toss. I was one of those single ladies who was embarrassed into doing it, and now I won't be doing it at my wedding. 1)its awkward, 2) there's lots of other fun things we could be doing 3) sometimes ex bfs are at the reception and it makes it all feel weird….
Thanks for mentioning the bouquet tossing! I think it's fun when you're 16. Not so much anymore when you're 28 oder 35 and everybody already keeps on asking when you will finally have a boyfriend.
If I marry one day, I will definitely skip a lot of traditions 😀
The tradition of not seeing each other before the wedding is also why veils are a traditional bridal garment. So the groom could not see your the bride’s face until after they were legally wed.
Can you also skip the father-daughter and mother-son dance?
I'm having a summer wedding. The ceremony will be outside. I wanted favors that people would actually like, so we are making cute fans and on the handle we are tying a mesh goody bag with a mosquito repellant bracelet and travel size sunscreen 🙂
Wow! That tradition about not seeing each other until the ceremony!
Thanks! I’m thinking about not even having a cake at all.. I’m not really a cake person and it just seems like such an unnecessary expense.
We're still doing favors bc they're succulents and that means I can just take them home LOL. #masterplan
FAVORS. Amen! I think I stressed so much about that and I think we gave a good ol' party anyway. 🙂
Adding to your last point about walking down the aisle: In German weddings there is a tradition that the first look happens right before you go into the church and then the couple walks down the aisle together. I think that is really nice 🙂
Were does the garter toss tradition come from? That's what I would like to know. No way am I doing that!
I love traditions. I don’t care about the meanings behind them or why they started. I think traditions are good but I do like things that are different and out of the ordinary too.
Any advice on how to get everyone on the dancefloor for the 'first dance'? Me and my husband to be don't want to just be swaying on the dance floor for 3-4 minutes like melons we want to get the party started right away with everyone! I'm worried that even if our DJ announces asking for everyone to join us that people will still just stand and watch because its tradition and they will not understand the DJs instructions… Any advice would be massively appreciated xx
I really love this video! My Fiancé and I are not doing MOST of these things and it's always nice to have an opinion that agrees with us because my LORD our parents don't understand that haha.
The tradition behind bouquet/garter toss is just as bad as the aisle tradition!!! We are skipping that for sure, I've never liked going out at weddings. I don't want to force people to at mine.
This was basically a list of things I don't want to do at my wedding, and you just solidified my choices! I will send this to my mom and everyone else who disagrees now… haha!
How do you get clients to understand you need time for their portraits if they so busy at their wedding.
Thank you for making this video! When my husband and I were planning our wedding, I mentioned to a sales lady that we were skipping the garter toss, and she responded with a "ohhh, your wedding isn't very traditional then". Unnecessarily judgemental. My husband and I didn't feel comfortable doing a garter toss, and our cultural backgrounds would actually make it unacceptable at a wedding.
I love your videos and ur style. Thank you so much for all the valuable info.
We are having bombonieres “favours”, the only tradition we are keeping in regards to the fact it only cost $66 AU to make up and it keeps the old traditional Italian folk in my family happy. 😂
We aren’t doing the tosses at all. It’s just to much time and I prefer to just dance around and have a good time with family that have travelled from all over Australia just to be there.
I think I might do the silent cake cutting. Thanks for that great idea.
Loved this video! What do you think about the many traditions surrounding pre-wedding events like showers, bachelorette/bachelor, engagement party, stag and doe etc? I always find the pre-wedding events as a guest to be exhausting, time consuming, and expensive. Is there a way for couples to celebrate in advance without such a drain on their guests?
Thank you! I'm the first in my group of friends to get married and I was unsure if it was ok to cut some traditions so THANK YOU!
Love this!!! 💕