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What our Wedding Vows should Say
Some of the trouble of long-term relationships comes from the vows we say at the beginning. We should learn to reformulate what we say when we enter marriages.
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We will not transition our children
Cuuuuuutttttteeeeeeeee ❤️😍
As a Jew, I love the standard Jewish vows:
"I will work, honor, feed and support you in the custom of Jewish men, who work, honor, feed, and support their wives faithfully. I will give you the settlement of silver which is due you according to law, as well as your food, clothing, necessities of life, and conjugal needs, according to the universal custom."
Bare minimum expectations are hard to disappoint.
Thank you, Sol, for striking a blow for truth.
The more of this type of video I watch, the more I'm content to stay single. Thank you for dispelling the myth that love is wonderful. 😉
This video breaks my heart. I'm done commenting.
I'm sorry. What?! lmfao. '…sex will suffer. We are ready to get married when we accept large degree of sexual resignation and the task of sublimation'. iow Get married when you're ready to feel dead inside. Who wrote this crap?
Lol. 'You hate the same people'. I'm dead. That was hilarious. 🤣 – Also, on a more serious note, expectations kill.
Wow
Nothing
About any of this
Appeals to me.
very true stuff, and eloquently put.
although, sadly, it is probably a bit TOO eloquent for the people who really NEED to see it to actually UNDERSTAND it.
maybe the vows should be for 3-5 years.
I resonate with the video, but can we all show appreciation to the artist who illustrated the hilarious "clothes" on the clothesline at 3:46?
I don’t like this video it’s like ok but not good it’s thumbs down 👎🏽for me
Or you just use an AI like generateweddingvows.com for inspiration.
These are some great tips! What you can also do is use an AI to generate wedding vows for you.
It could at least help you with writing good wedding vows yourself…
That web app is at: https://generateweddingvows.com/
And take out that 'obey' clause…that is bulls*&t!
That was depressing lol love is so much more than that
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I'd change it to, "Here's what I'll try to do but if I fail it's because shit happens" My x had a crush on a guy we saw once a year, he is a singer and sang her a love song (duh). I teased her about him on occasion and she'd get this embarassed smile on her face which was fun cause I knew her nasty secret. When we saw him at the music festival I told her to "go for it" and she did and I wasn't bothered, kind of liked her smile. However we were no longer having kids, makes a big difference in my mind.
I do know that in a short time, you whom l now delussionally belief are my soul mate will suddenly become my cellmate. SO, NO I CHOOSE TO LEAVE THIS ALTER – NOW!!!!!
The funny thing is even befor this video I knew he didn't his loss
I was all ready to hate this video, thinking that it was going to resign itself to some weak "I love you as long as it's working" sort of vows, but this is actually very good.
Loved it!
There are some religious traditions in which no vows are exchanged. The ceremony is performed and the couple are married. Vows are not required to start a marriage.
4:44 "Compatibility is an achievement of love. It shouldn't be it's precondition". Happily married people have emotional similarities and non-emotional differences. This is compatibility. So is compatibility something that can be established between couples (perhaps with pre-marital counseling help) before going to the altar (precondition)? Or is compatibility something that has to be "worked out"(achieved)? Ask the opinion of happily married couples.
Don't get things twisted, I'm trying to show restraint, I want the girl.
Dermacare
I will take your suggestions in my wedding next July!
wedding is the best part of a couple. but in a long run we getting married is not easy, there's a lot of trials. but if you two know how to handle and how to fix, everything well be fine and smooth.
That's not my personal experience. I've never been more in love with someone and sexually happy then now that my partner and I go to the grocery store and cook and fix the house problems together… He seems sexier than anyone else to me. The relationships issues that I must confront are yes, our anxieties sometimes, but never the lack of sex or the kind of disillusion vibe that is presented to be a universal feeling… I'm happier as I can be with someone thanks to the shared everyday life, I don't share the feeling that I must struggle to be not "too sad" because of it. And I've been in many relationships before and I know for a fact that some people are faaaaaar better and easier to live with than others, not perfect, but far better for sure, and a lot of women just accept inacceptable life conditions for the sake of romantism, and not the other way around (= leave because of it). A little bit of sociology would help too I think for that matter.
1. I highly recommend everyone to listen to the latest " On Being with Kritsa Tippett" episode with Alain de Botton as guest. Friends who are new here: he is the founder of this channel. There he talks about his latest book" The Course of Love". Even friends who cannot ever imagine to get married, like myself, will find a lot of wisdom and consolation
in that very profound and meaningful conversation. Be sure to download the "unedited version". Here is the part from that podcast, that I have personally found the most helpful:
"Ms. Tippett:
…. I'm single right now and have been for a few years, and it's actually been a great joy. Not that I think I will be single forever or want to be single forever. Although, actually, I think I would be alright if I were, which is a real watershed. and also what this part of – this chapter of life has taught me to really enjoy more deeply and take more seriously are all the many forms of love in life aside from just romantic love or being coupled. Do people talk to you about that?
Mr. de Botton:
Well, it's funny because just as you were saying " I am single, I was about to say " You'are not". Because we have to look at what this idea of singlehood is. We've got this word "single" which captures somebody who's not got a long term relationship.
Ms.. Tippett:
But I have so much love in my life.
Mr. de Botton:
That's right. And another way of looking at love is connection. We'are all the time , we are hardwired to seek connections with others. And that is, in a sense, at a kind of granular level, what love is. LOVE IS CONNECTION. And insofar as one is alive and one is in buoyant, relatively buoyant spirit some of the time, it's because we are connected. And we can take pride in how flexible our minds ultimately are about where that connection is coming.
And I think it's also worth saying that, for some people relationships are not necessarily the best place where they encounter their best selves, that actually, the person that they are in a relationship is not the person that they want to be or that they can be in other areas of life, that they feel that there are other possibilities that they'd like to explore."
2. And friends who are not yet decided whether they should get married
or not, you can watch these three movies first:
"Scenes from a marriage" by Ingmar Bergman
"Who is afraid of Virginia Wolf" by Mike Nichols
"Before Midnight" by Richard Linklater
Thanks a lot for such a wise and noble lesson and for the wonderful animation!
if i have kids i won't have sex…
okay no kids
"Marriage"- love the idea , dislike reality of it.
Anyone ever think the author is constantly projecting in these?