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Your Wedding Is Keeping You BROKE and In DEBT!
Weddings are a huge financial event that can make or break your bank account before you even say “I do”. Your wedding is keeping you broke in debt from the expensive vendors, catering, and many hidden costs! #socialcommentary #videoessay
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Wedding Costs Over the Years & Wedding stats
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37 comments
What in this video shocked you the most? What's YOUR wedding story? What's the most outrageous amount you've seen someone spend on a wedding? Do you think it's justified or crazy? Also what percent is your phone🔋 on? Im on 45% and it's 1:35 a.m. 😭
I’m going to be a bridesmaid for my friend’s wedding next year (two of my friends are engaged to each other) and according to what they told me for totals, they’re doing it for under $2.5k. They just have a park venue and then a hall for the reception and her parents are paying for catering as their wedding gift, and even then it’s going to be pretty simple food. Literally I’m helping them plan it along with a few other friends who are media/journalist/arts college majors with camera equipment and nice Bluetooth speakers, they’re getting a custom sheet cake from Meijer, and I designed the invitations on Canva. I think there’s gonna be like 75 guests max? I honestly have no clue how anyone can stand to spend so much on weddings, granted we’re not having booze there so that probably helps but this is just insane!
I would run naked through Central London before I asked my mum to pay for my wedding. The level of entitlement to expect that is grotesque. If they want to talk about tradition, traditional also dictates that women stay at home and the man goes to work. Funny how only the convenient traditions that are selected.
160 people at the wedding? How can you even know so many people, let alone be so close to them to invite them to your wedding? Like, of course catering for so many people would be expensive, what did you expected? An if you can't afford, then don't invite them all
Weddings are a scam. So glad we didn't do a wedding i got a custom engagement ring for 50x cheaper than a pre made snice i did the ring sketchs.
Imo you don't need to go above 5000$ max for a wedding. It's just a day. If I got married and I wanted anything from my parents I'd just ask for money towards a house. That's it. I don't even need a wedding dress. You wear it once and never again. I'd probably wear a normal non traditional wedding dress so I could re-use it, don't need a white dress.
Feeding a 100 people at a wedding? Are you inviting a whole town?!
5:39 I worked at a bakery & learned how to portion & cut tiered cakes, yall are about to catch me cutting & serving that cake MYSELF
I’ve also heard that vendors significantly bump up the cost when you tell them it’s for a wedding
11:15 Idk if my math is correct ($350x 216 months or 18 years), but that’s about $75.6k. I can’t fathom they did everything themselves and still have to pay that much. That’s wild. How could you allow your FAMILY to go into that much debt for you?
Thats average income before taxes…..so adjusted for taxes, average income is really about $53k
My wedding was perfect for me. I got what I wanted and we could afford the big wedding. The issue is the vendors gouging prices! It’s ridiculous
Budget $150 go to the courthouse
“These fees are like ninjas, you ain’t gonna see ‘em till it’s too late”😂😂😂😂
Had a marriage registrar wedding, reception at my in-laws, bought two normal cakes…. cost us 650usd total.. I'm in Kenya
This is an obvious scam and the fact that so many people can't see that is disturbing. The chances of marriages lasting in this day and age is abysmal. Did we just forget that divorces have been rising?
That one mom is crazy if she thinks spending over 50k is frugal. $350 in monthly payments
350×12= $4,200 a year × 18 years = $75,600. Assuming 29.99% interest on her credit card she spent $52,327.56 on her daughter's frugal wedding where she said they did everything themselves.
Not married yet, but literally ever since i was about 6 ive wanted to get married in vegas by Elvis in a dirve thru/corner 24 hr wedding place and then just have areally good dinner at fogo de Chao
This why court weddings are best. Just you both and 3 friends to witness and then you go to pizza hut afterwards. Wedding cost = 500 or less and courts are kids and pet friendly and for honeymoon go to spain and eat paella or france to a budget accommodation away from eiffel tower. Youve saved money. Also if you need a wedding dress go buy from charity shop and you dont need bridesmaids because its in court. Also if the marriage doesn't work out after couple of years the same court you married at will spilt everything equally and everyone happy
Yeah this country doesn’t do well with transitions
Transition from graduating
Transition after a promotion
After a death
After a divorce
Recovery time is worsened
I want a $70 Zelda Zora ring from Amazon 😂😂😂
3:26 do you NEED 160 people to attend!?
I’d only bring my witness
3:12 that’s a new car price
Or a year in college 😂😂😂
1:59 I mean just buy some cheap flowers from the grocery store, maybe two bunches, and get creative with it
Or buy fake plants
Orrrr
Don’t have stupid decor at all
I would never spend more than $50 on the actual wedding celebration. I’d only pay the marriage license fee and whatever any other fees and maybe a pizza and water gallon. I don’t understand the ceremony at all.
Same I eloped on the beach, with all of 8 people and I regret nothing.
lol how we paid the cake cutting fee and they didn’t cut it. We also had to pay a water glass filling fee 😅
I understand that some people are not okay with just having a courthouse wedding, me and my wife were the same way! We did the whole thing for under 10k, we planned it ourself, kept it small, and got help from friends wherever we could, we only hosted about 150 people. It was the best day of my life and I estimate it only cost about 7k usd. We were able to find a nice, affordable small venue with a chapel and reception right by each other. The biggest hurdles to overcome were catering, wedding dress, photography, and venue. These are the big ticket items that get most people. Catering was the hardest one for us, we were able to find a cheap taco place that made some delicious cheap tacos, and my groomsmen helped me serve the food, that saved us a lot, also having less people meant we could pick up and didn't have to pay for delivery, and allowed this small place to feed our wedding. We also took our time shopping for a wedding dress. I know this can be stressful for a lot of ladies, but take your time, if you can find a dress that is "unwanted" you can get a great steal. My wife is thicc, so she was able to find a stunning dress that other women couldn't fit in, so we were able to get it for quite cheap, though it did require some adjustments. There are plenty of "cheap" places with used dresses that do alterations. I recommend forgoing videography, and just sticking to a photographer, it is way cheaper and in my opinion less intrusive, we were able to get help from a family friend through church who was willing to help us out, they didn't usually do weddings so they were much cheaper especially with a family discount, and the pictures were great! Venues can be really hard, because they have different rules and fees, try to find a venue with both a ceremony and reception on the same property with a package deal, reduces headache and travel time, and is typically cheaper. It depends on what you want, but we found that cute country venues were the best options, as they were beautiful and quite cheap, and often had the self respect not to charge BS fees. I highly recommend keeping your wedding small, realistically how many people actually matter in your life, everyone else is just gonna cost you money and you'll barely talk, so I personally see no reason to spend exponentially more on venue, catering, etc. when they are just there for appearances. No need to feel bad about not inviting people you aren't close to. I will also admit, we did finance most of our wedding, but only because we knew we would be able to pay it off, and we're almost done in less than a year.
6 months into planning my wedding I was so stressed out. A friend gave me some advice and told me to put the wedding down for a month and revisit it after that month to see how you feel. After my month was up I never wanted to pick it back up 😂 To make a long story short, my now husband, kids and I skipped the wedding and went to the botanical gardens and had an intimate ceremony 🥰❤️ I wouldn’t change a thing, the day was all about us and our union, nothing else. We spent more money on our week long honeymoon in Mexico than we did on an expensive wedding. I would do it all over again 😊
11:15 oh my god??? People say this??? That’s I’m supposed to be given away like an item?? Huh ??????
I know that mother saying “would i do it again? Probably “ is lying. Like girl just say NO 😂😂😂😂
Me and my wife got married in the woods of our own property and had a small party nothing crazy saved all the money had a bomb honeymoon no debt
I would never put my mom in debt. Much less alone for, what in my personal opinion is, just a party.
I got married in 2020 and when I found out the costs for flowers, centerpieces, decorations, boutonnières, I quickly decoded to DIY everything. Luckily my husband and I are pretty crafty. I bought fake flowers from the dollar tree and Michaels and made some nice arrangements. It looked good and saved a ton of money so I don’t regret it.
We just signed paperwork, had dinner and went on a month long honeymoon driving around the UK and visiting all the sights (we’re from CA). We’ve been together happily for 20 years ❤
Going into debt for someone else's wedding is insane
Lol she’ll be surprised to know that she will only be holding that flower bouquet for about the two minute walk down the aisle and then she will hand it to someone else and then she will hold it for another two minutes as they walk back down the aisle and then that’s it that flower is going straight into a vase a pot laid on the table something and probably won’t be picked up again until it’s tossed to one of her Homies. You’re literally spending $500 on nothing.put your own flower bouquets together